by DrDeb Hirschhorn | May 17, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
Well, let’s start with a couple questions that need to come first…. What Is Intimacy? “I know that town intimately well,” Bob said. “After all, I grew up there.” That is clearly not about sex, right? People – mistakenly –...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | May 15, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
Here’s my question back: How do you feel? And an even better question: Why do you feel as you do? See, the worst feeling a person can have when a marriage ends is like you’re a failure. That’s an awful thing to carry around for the rest of your life. So,...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | May 10, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
Thank you for the suggestion of this topic!! You know who you are! If you’ve been in this group or reading my blog somewhere else for a while, you know to expect the unexpected. So I’m going to do just that. And it will be hard. Very hard. And I cannot...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Apr 19, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
“Wait a minute, DrDeb. I object to that title! I AM an objective person! I’m very rational, logical, analytical. Of course I’m objective!” Um…. I appreciate that, but our brains aren’t built that way, my friend. Here’s a little...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Apr 17, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
“DrDeb,” Kenny was complaining, “it’s only my wife that triggers me! I have lots of relationships – from work to my religious community to my kids’ schools where I’m very active – and I get along well with everyone...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Apr 5, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
Gaslighting was actually the title of a movie from 1944. In it, the protagonist wants his wife to think she’s going crazy, so he moves the furniture around just enough for the room to feel wrong but not enough for her to consciously notice what happened. The...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Apr 3, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
This woman was talking to me about her daughter’s atrocious acting-out behavior. “True,” she said, “my husband was verbally abusive to her. But it didn’t happen every day. She should move on!” I was in shock for a moment. Then I...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Mar 22, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
Really. I’m not kidding. Self-control is that gritting your teeth, tightening your fist kind of thing. It’s that pushing down of all your feelings until you don’t have them. Or at least don’t know what happened to them. That numb kind of thing....
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Mar 15, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
“We could never have a peaceful discussion.” “Every time I want to talk about my feelings, I get accused of picking on him/her” “No matter how many pleasant requests I’ve made to stop [ X ] it doesn’t stop. I get no...
