by DrDeb Hirschhorn | May 12, 2016 | Marriage and Relationships
Last week, we met Mimi and Jordan, a lovely young couple whose dating relationship was marked by Mimi being attracted to Jordan precisely because he did not fawn over her. Mimi, although very pretty, smart, and nice, had low self-esteem. She kept that well-hidden with...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | May 5, 2016 | Marriage and Relationships
Mimi was all excited. She was getting ready for a first date with Jordan. She was looking forward to the date because she had heard such glowing reports about him from all his references: He was smart, likable, and a great earner. Jordan was punctual, a good quality....
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Apr 4, 2016 | Marriage and Relationships
Your marriage is in tatters. You cry nearly every day. Or you are just about ready to have an affair. You cannot stand it anymore. Your husband ignores everything and nothing works: Being nice, not being nice, being a listener, not being a listener, nagging, not...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 21, 2016 | Parenting
I was rereading a therapy magazine from 1999 — so the problems were full-blown even back then– and it related the following: In a difference of opinion between a child and her mother who wanted the TV shut off, as the mother’s demand became stronger,...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Apr 29, 2013 | Parenting
Research shows that low self-esteem is associated with depression in adolescents and lower achievement in school. How can parents help their children to build healthy self esteem? High self-esteem can be dangerous One would think that it is obvious that children...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Dec 10, 2012 | Mental Health
Okay, here’s a question: Do you put yourself first or others first? Here’s another question: What is the right thing to do regarding the first question? Third question: Who told you that? Where did that message come from? And the final question: Where does self-esteem...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Mar 2, 2012 | Mental Health
“I know I’m a good person,” Phyllis said earnestly. “I do a lot for my friends. They can count on me and they know it. I would never hurt anyone. I’m kind. The only thing is,” here, she hesitated, “I don’t treat myself nearly as well as I treat everyone else. Although...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 7, 2006 | Marriage and Relationships
We all know what positive reinforcement is: Something you give to someone to increase behavior you want. You give it following the behavior and, if done with skill and intelligence, it will lead to more of the same. For example, you tell the woman you’re out with,...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Mar 3, 2006 | Marriage and Relationships
REPRINTED WITH PERMISSION from the Florida Jewish News, pp. 12, 20 One of my pet peeves is using the word “adult,” as in “adult movie” because, in fact, the nature of relationships in the so-called “adult” scene are so juvenile. Who watches such things? People with...
