by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 17, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
This is for you. Yes, for you if you think that you’re fine and the only person that needs help from me with the marriage is your spouse. It’s true, your spouse has lied/cheated/neglected/been addicted/been mean…. So you’re HALF right. Yes,...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 9, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
Sex is the Gold Standard of a well-oiled, functioning, happy, content marriage. Or it should be. And so, for that reason, everyone wants it. It feels wonderful when it feels wonderful. But when it doesn’t….. It’s two strangers trying to connect and...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 29, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
Finally, your spouse got it. He or she realized it was mean to be mean. And they apologized. From the heart. But something strange has happened. You’re doing the same thing back. Saying nasty things. Hitting below the belt. And they’re suffering. Now...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 27, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
I was reading Steven Stosny the other day and he said something profound. He has been working for decades on helping people who’ve been not merely angry, but sometimes enraged, to feel compassion. This is no easy matter because highly angry people often...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 4, 2016 | Marriage and Relationships
Hey, don’t just take my word for it! Let’s see what my colleagues around the web are advising you on the topic “marriage tips.” 1. Marriage Max http://www.marriagemax.com/tip.asp Mort Fertel is not a marriage counselor — and...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 1, 2013 | Marriage and Relationships
Kerry got into it with his brother-in-law again. Somehow this happened with some, almost predictable, regularity about twice a year. Each time was painful for them and for the witnesses. Yet, it seemed doomed to repeat itself. And in that horrible cycle, Kerry would...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Oct 24, 2011 | Marriage and Relationships
Let’s call this topic “spiritual.” It’s part of the marriage and family counseling process and there is no way to get away from it. Sometimes silver linings are so big they cover the whole cloud. In order for your marriage to work, it helps to see that Life has...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 19, 2007 | Marriage and Relationships
REPRINTED WITH PERMISSION OF the Florida Jewish News You check off the mental list: You’ve never been abusive. You remember anniversaries, birthdays. True, you never seem to get the right gift, but you’re head and shoulders above the poor sucker who forgot all...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jun 30, 2006 | Marriage and Relationships
REPRINTED WITH PERMISSION from the Florida Jewish News She sat there in a puddle of tears and justifiably so. She had had a very hard life, married to a man who mistreated her. Now, at last she was on the brink of freedom as he lay in the hospital in a coma from an...
