by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 21, 2024 | Mental Health
Scenario #1: “Are you kidding?” Margie said to the marriage counselor. “You want me to tell Carl how I feel? Do you realize that if I share with him how hurt I am, that will come back to bite me in the rear?” So what’s normal? Is it normal for spouses to share...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 16, 2024 | Marriage and Relationships, Mental Health
Remember Molly, from Marriage Situation #1? She was the people pleaser. It seemed at first that Tom, her husband, and she, got along just fine. But we didn’t look too closely back then. Now, we’re going to focus on Tom, her husband. Let’s just say...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 8, 2024 | Marriage and Relationships, Mental Health
“Huh, DrDeb?” some readers must be thinking. And then probably other readers are thinking, “Yessss! Told ya my anger is good!” See, your anger – whether you love having it or hate it – is part of you. We’re all born with it. Think of that red-faced newborn, screaming....
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 3, 2024 | Marriage and Relationships, Mental Health
My “Love Yourself Love Your Marriage Individual Learning + Group Coaching” offer is for couples who want to stay married but who have been struggling with communication breakdowns, disconnect, or discord. They have tried weekend programs and/or marriage counseling and...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 9, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships, Mental Health
“Caroline did not mean to insult you!” Nancy said about their daughter. “I know this to be true because she told me herself. She’s a good girl, the best!” “Yeah, well, why didn’t she apologize then?” William demanded. “You wouldn’t speak to her! How could she...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 6, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships, Mental Health
“I know I can stand up for myself. I know exactly what to say. I’ve practiced it in front of the mirror a thousand times!” Carrie said. “But when it comes to actually doing it, something stops me,” she added, sighing. In this made-up example, I’m the therapist,...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Oct 30, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships, Mental Health
“DrDeb, I had a happy childhood so there’s no need to waste time and money in therapy going back there!” That’s one thing I’ll hear quite a bit. Here’s another one: “My past was very painful. I don’t want to relive it, so no, I don’t want the kind of therapy that has...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Apr 28, 2016 | Mental Health
We were all seated at large round tables enjoying a celebration of a dear friend’s son. We guests went around the table introducing ourselves. A woman across the table stared at me after she announced her name. “You look familiar she said.” I smiled...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Apr 21, 2016 | Mental Health
Lilly was ten. When she was in school, she could dig into her work and her mind could entertain itself with whatever the subjects were; she loved school. It was when she came home that the problems began. Her father had a temper that would erupt easily. Lilly could...
