I posted a question on Tuesday, What's Your Obstacle For Not Taking The Coaching Course? And someone gave what I think is a great answer - How do I know it will work for me? Now to answer that correctly, we need to start with the problem, right? Not all marriage...

Great question! Thank you for this suggestion!   I don't think most people are compatible. My daughter and my son will chat about their legal cases as they're both attorneys. My daughter's husband is bored to tears. He's a computer person and just give him a chance to...

Thank you to the group member who supplied this topic. And it sure does come up often: "Why can't they listen?" "Why can't they show me the same courtesy and care that I show to them?" "Why do they tell me they love me if they don't even listen to me?" "I mean, that's...

When you're talking to the wall, it's kind of hard to be positive. Then again, I live alone (my husband died 7 years ago) and I talk to the walls all the time. They don't help me much, but the advantage is that they leave me alone when I'm trying to sort out my...

  Thank you to the person in our amazing group who requested this important topic. Your spouse walks in the door and before you can breathe, boom! They knife your heart. What do you do? Nothing works. Everything is collapsing. There's a part of you that wants to...

Well, let's start with a couple questions that need to come first…. What Is Intimacy? "I know that town intimately well," Bob said. "After all, I grew up there." That is clearly not about sex, right? People - mistakenly - think intimacy is the sex act. It isn't. Think...

 Here's my question back: How do you feel? And an even better question: Why do you feel as you do?  See, the worst feeling a person can have when a marriage ends is like you’re a failure. That's an awful thing to carry around for the rest of your life. So, if you're...

 Thank you for the suggestion of this topic!! You know who you are! If you've been in this group or reading my blog somewhere else for a while, you know to expect the unexpected. So I'm going to do just that. And it will be hard. Very hard. And I cannot guarantee if...

 "Wait a minute, DrDeb. I object to that title! I AM an objective person! I'm very rational, logical, analytical. Of course I'm objective!" Um…. I appreciate that, but our brains aren't built that way, my friend.  Here's a little lesson in neurobiology: The neocortex...

"DrDeb," Kenny was complaining, "it's only my wife that triggers me! I have lots of relationships - from work to my religious community to my kids' schools where I'm very active - and I get along well with everyone else…. ….so it must be that I married the wrong...