"I'm calm!" Susan said, her nose just a bit in the air. "I'm not upset at all. I'm just telling you that my husband is a mean, rotten person. He is not nice at all. I just want you to know." Is Susan in Self Energy as she explains all this? Well, she's calm and...

Do you mean the word, “anything”? Really? Because I would bet that you both agree that you wouldn’t want to make a few extra dollars by scamming little old men and ladies out of their life savings. Right? See, the real thing is not that you don’t agree on “anything.”...

After years of exhausting “discussions” that went nowhere, Sheila had lost all belief in herself. Not only that, she didn’t even know what she believed. And the question is: Where is that belief supposed to come from now? Should she get divorced and find someone who...

The original story of crazy-making, a 1938 British play, was made into a 1944 movie called Gas Light. A man wishes to make his wife think she is going crazy, most likely to be able to take over the mansion that she was raised in. He seduces her to fall in love and...

Here’s a few questions to start off the discussion: 1. Are you still together? If so, why are you when the behavior didn’t change? 2. Do you love this person who you resent? If so, why do you? 3. Have you discussed the situation and your mutual goals? If not, why not?...

There is never going to be a time without high drama and emotions in blended families. If you're going to marry someone with kids, be prepared. Why? Because kids were meant to have a stable relationship with both parents under one roof. This is even true within the...

Thank you to two people who requested this topic in slightly different language…. It's the old complaint of, "Why can't we communicate?" Here's the short answer: Because the "we" in that sentence isn't actually there! Instead of two people in all their wisdom,...

Thank you Cherie Nixon for this interesting question. You were wondering if you are "ready for that" and whether you could handle it. Having feelings - and getting those feelings returned - has to be one of the most exciting of experiences. It really puts anyone on a...

Believe it or not, every attempt at self-sabotage is actually meant to help us. That's because the behaviors, feelings, and attitudes that hijack us are our protectors within. Protectors started helping us when we were young -- and they haven't stopped. They can't...

I posted a question on Tuesday, What's Your Obstacle For Not Taking The Coaching Course? And someone gave what I think is a great answer - How do I know it will work for me? Now to answer that correctly, we need to start with the problem, right? Not all marriage...