To Remove Guilt, Shame, Anxiety, Depression – Practice Separating Your Difficult “Parts” From Your “Self”
Okay. Take a comfortable seat. Imagine the "part" of you that - - feels like a victim - is angry - or depressed - or anxious - or nervous - or full of shame and guilt . . . imagine whichever one of those you might feel right now moving over, giving you some space....
Why Communication Breaks Down
It's not you. Really. And it's not them, either, actually. I mean it. So whose fault is it? It's not a fault. It just is. Communication breaks down because two people who have already suffered some hurt in their lives find each other, fall in love, and then…. ….then...
WE TURN AROUND MARRIAGES
The first time I heard about this crazy method of changing our moods, almost automatically, I had flown across the ocean to see one son, his wife and his children - my grandchildren. I hadn't seen them in two years, shame on me, and I couldn't wait. But COVID said I...
I Tried Everything And I Can’t Tame My Triggers
Jill was exasperated. "Trust me," she said, "I tried everything so that I don't start screaming. Believe me, I don't want to be that kind of person!" she exclaimed emphatically. "Just so you know, I'm doing meditation for 5 years. It's great - when I'm meditating....
One Powerful Reason Successful Couples May Have More Of A Challenge In Their Marriage
To be successful, you've got to think. Well, yeah….So what? Here's the problem with thinking: Thinking's great. I do it myself, lol. I couldn't have written a dissertation and gotten through grad school without it. But… When it comes to marriage -...
IF I’M NOT BROKEN, THEN CAN THERE BE SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME?
I love, love, love that you guys - my wonderful readers in this group - have absorbed the main point that I've been pushing all along - You're not broken! You're not sick! You're not evil! But….. You (and I) are human!! So how, exactly, are human beings put together,...
5 Ways To Get A Reluctant Spouse On Board
Day after day, everything remains the same. They make promises they don't keep - because they can't. They don't know how. They don't know what a "good" life feels like. Or they ignore your pleas, your tears, your sharing of how you feel. And it just drags on...
How Do You Come To Love Yourself?
CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) believes it has an answer to the problem so many of us are plagued with of what they call "limiting beliefs." Those are things we truly believe about ourselves, like: I'm no good. I'm a bad parent. I should be doing better than I'm...
How To Get Unstuck From The Same Old Cycle
Sam walked in the door, thinking about Rob. "Really," he thought, "Rob has a lot of nerve. Who does he think he is, anyway? First he tells me not to negotiate with Merryweather and then he goes behind my back and does exactly that?" Sam had a fiery look in his eye as...
Where Are Your Inner Children?
Wait! Don't leave! I can see rolled eyeballs. But the people rolling them are the ones who need this most. Why do I say that? Because those are the people (usually the men) that our society robbed of their emotions. It's not their fault. And it's really not...