by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 5, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
You feel isolated, misunderstood. You’re afraid to say something and afraid not to say something. You wonder why you’re married if you have to sit all alone in your empty house. You feel so much worse being married and alone than people who are alone....
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 3, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
When your spouse finally learns that you’ve caught him or her cheating – in one way or another – what’s the usual reaction? They get defensive. They cover it up. They minimize it. And they’re not the ones reading this post. You are. The...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 29, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
Finally, your spouse got it. He or she realized it was mean to be mean. And they apologized. From the heart. But something strange has happened. You’re doing the same thing back. Saying nasty things. Hitting below the belt. And they’re suffering. Now...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 27, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
I was reading Steven Stosny the other day and he said something profound. He has been working for decades on helping people who’ve been not merely angry, but sometimes enraged, to feel compassion. This is no easy matter because highly angry people often...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 26, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
Mary screamed. She did not like herself screaming. She hated it. But she couldn’t help it. She screamed at Tim. It was nasty. Tim retreated to his phone. In fact, he walked out the door and retreated to his phone. But the reality is that Tim did not fix any of...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 19, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
You are sick and tired of this. Sick of him/her not being home. Sick of the lies. Sick of the distance, the disconnection. Sick of putting up with feeling second class, unimportant. You cannot tolerate it. And why should you? You’re a good person. No reason...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 15, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
70% of divorces are initiated by women. Why is that? It seems that the old saying is true, “happy wife, happy life.” Do men have simpler needs? Are women harder to please? What’s going on? Strength One truth is that for centuries, men have thrown...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 12, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
When you look at yourself and your own behavior, you just can’t understand how you got here. You’re a good person. You have a good heart. You wouldn’t want to hurt anybody. Yet…. You’ve found yourself stooping way lower than you could...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 8, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
Someone named Mr. Edwards asked me if his wife was “ready” for marital therapy because he didn’t think she was. The question puzzled me. Why does anyone have to be ready? You just do it. Like the time, when I was about 8 years old in summer camp and...
