by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Mar 16, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
“Those idiots,” Michael thought. “Can’t they see that they’re making a huge mistake?” Just then his boss, Jim, came in. “Michael, can you explain what, exactly, happened between you and the engineering team? Three people came...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Mar 12, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
“Of course I know that people aren’t supposed to lose it,” Tammy said defensively. “I’m not stupid. I didn’t just get born yesterday. I know how to act. In fact,” she went on with an air of superiority about her,...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Mar 9, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
When Shelly was three, she saw her mother smashing dishes in the kitchen and she became very frightened. She heard her father’s loud voice and she ran and hid in the back of her closet. She loved that closet. It was so large that there was plenty of room for a...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Mar 5, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
“Maybe it’s the Fighting Irish in me,” Kelly said with an engaging smile, “but to answer your question, I prefer to get angry than to be civil and work assertively with someone who is bothering me.” Well, that was honest. Kelly came from a...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Mar 3, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
I was reading Steven Stosny the other day and he said something profound. He has been working for decades on helping people who’ve been not merely angry, but sometimes enraged, to feel compassion. This is no easy matter because highly angry people often...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Mar 2, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
Kim would work himself up into such a frenzy that he spit. When he was on a tirade, nothing could stop him. Even himself. The “himself” is the saddest part of this because in his quiet moments he hated his anger and he hated himself for it, but he could...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 17, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
This is for you. Yes, for you if you think that you’re fine and the only person that needs help from me with the marriage is your spouse. It’s true, your spouse has lied/cheated/neglected/been addicted/been mean…. So you’re HALF right. Yes,...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 16, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
“I’m so scared. I feel like I just got thrown off a cliff. I’m in free-fall and I do not know if I will land at all or be crushed to death when I do. This is crazy. Topsy-turvy. OMG.” Okay. I get it. Your world has turned upside down. Breathe....
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 12, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
I always have this mental picture when I hear that someone went to “anger management” – a picture of someone gritting their teeth, panting, and trying their hardest to “control” themselves from bursting out in a fit of rage. Fingernails...
