by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Mar 2, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
Kim would work himself up into such a frenzy that he spit. When he was on a tirade, nothing could stop him. Even himself. The “himself” is the saddest part of this because in his quiet moments he hated his anger and he hated himself for it, but he could...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 26, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
Mike was pretty unhappy. He said he didn’t want to think about the possibility that his wife would end the marriage. He spoke with great pain about that fight they had in which the horrible “D” word was uttered. As we were going through the call and...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 23, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
Here are 4 categories of people running away from themselves: People addicted to one thing or another – alcohol, drugs, gambling, porn, shopping, working exceptionally long hours, explosive anger/rages, cutting, purging, lying, or cheating. Schizophrenics,...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 17, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
This is for you. Yes, for you if you think that you’re fine and the only person that needs help from me with the marriage is your spouse. It’s true, your spouse has lied/cheated/neglected/been addicted/been mean…. So you’re HALF right. Yes,...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 16, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
“I’m so scared. I feel like I just got thrown off a cliff. I’m in free-fall and I do not know if I will land at all or be crushed to death when I do. This is crazy. Topsy-turvy. OMG.” Okay. I get it. Your world has turned upside down. Breathe....
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 12, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
I always have this mental picture when I hear that someone went to “anger management” – a picture of someone gritting their teeth, panting, and trying their hardest to “control” themselves from bursting out in a fit of rage. Fingernails...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 9, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
Sex is the Gold Standard of a well-oiled, functioning, happy, content marriage. Or it should be. And so, for that reason, everyone wants it. It feels wonderful when it feels wonderful. But when it doesn’t….. It’s two strangers trying to connect and...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 5, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
You feel isolated, misunderstood. You’re afraid to say something and afraid not to say something. You wonder why you’re married if you have to sit all alone in your empty house. You feel so much worse being married and alone than people who are alone....
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 3, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
When your spouse finally learns that you’ve caught him or her cheating – in one way or another – what’s the usual reaction? They get defensive. They cover it up. They minimize it. And they’re not the ones reading this post. You are. The...
