The Keys To Being A Giver Are Not What You Think (ep 10)
Episode 10 of our playlist is up! Not only do you need to be a giver if you want the Personal Power of your Self Energy handling things in your marriage - but so does your partner. Learn exactly what that is, and isn't. Watch the entire playlist, We Have The Secret To...
Can We Heal Our Marriage Without Going Into The Past?
A very young couple reached out to me about 10 years ago. They had a therapist who referred them to me because she didn’t do couples work. At that time, I didn’t know IFS (Internal Family Systems) and we Marriage & Family Therapists were trained not to have to...
You DO Have Wisdom and Intuition (ep 9)
Stop putting yourself down. You DO have wisdom. You DO have intuition. And in this video, I will show you how to discover yours. It's not even hidden so deeply. The problem is the strenght of all your internal nay-sayers. Those need convincing and you will see how....
Why We Think We’re Right When We’re Wrong
“With all due respect, DrDeb,” he started out, [Uh-oh, it’s trouble when they start out that way.] “I’ve known my wife for 25 years and I know what I’m talking about.” Robert was trying to convince me that his wife was stupid. As a Marriage & Family Therapist, I...
Live! Don’t Bother Me With The Facts
“Caroline did not mean to insult you!” Nancy said about their daughter. “I know this to be true because she told me herself. She’s a good girl, the best!” “Yeah, well, why didn’t she apologize then?” William demanded. “You wouldn’t speak to her! How could she...
When Failure Is A Good Thing
Getting Clarity in muddy waters is not easy. But to gain the power of Self Engery, you need that clarity. How do you get it? The first step is to not shy away from "trying" things that may seem difficult or out of reach because if you fail, you're in luck! Then you...
One Surprising Way To Get Past Your Limiting Beliefs
"I know I can stand up for myself. I know exactly what to say. I’ve practiced it in front of the mirror a thousand times!” Carrie said. “But when it comes to actually doing it, something stops me,” she added, sighing. In this made-up example, I’m the therapist, and I...
Watch Out! These Are Uber-Powerful (ep 7)
We're adding two more super-pwers to the YouTube playlist on my channel in this video - they give you the way that you can express your authentic Self in spite of the obstacles.
I DO NOT Want To Revisit My Past!
“DrDeb, I had a happy childhood so there’s no need to waste time and money in therapy going back there!” That’s one thing I’ll hear quite a bit. Here’s another one: “My past was very painful. I don’t want to relive it, so no, I don’t want the kind of therapy that has...
How To Strengthen Your Relationship Even When Your Partner Isn’t Changing
“DrDeb, I know what you’re going to tell me. You’re going to say I have to be nice, be good, and then my partner will react differently. Well, I’ve tried that, and it doesn’t work.” That’s why that’s not what I’m going to say, lol. If you’re nice and good you can get...