Perfectionism’s Fatal Attraction
I'm now releasing #16 of the Marriage Situations Playlist, Perfectionism's Fatal Attraction. See, you thought, maybe, that being a perfectionist is tough because you have to be perfect? Nah, that's not at all the worst part. Watch the video to understand the real...
Two Steps You Must Take When Your Partner Is Not Meeting Your Needs
No, it’s not “Tell them” – because they don’t listen. And no, it’s not “Divorce them” because guess what? – if you’re divorced they sure as heck won’t be meeting your needs. AND research shows that even if you re-marry, you will still feel resentful of the first...
Is He B.S.-ing His Therapist? How You Can Tell (Situation #14)
Cheryl's fear of abandonment may be keeping her in an abusive marriage unless she can learn how to tell if he is really changing or just putting on a good show. Find out the specifics she learns in order to know....
Why People Are In Denial and How To Stop Them
Someone in my Facebook group asked, “How come people will say they have no issues and their childhood was great, yet they create marital problems that do not exist?” Ha! Funny, right? That is classic denial. Of COURSE they had a problemmatic childhood. No, it was not...
Why We Self-Sabotage And How To Stop (Situation #13)
Self-sabotage is a part, but more importantly, it's a protector. Well, how can it protect by sabotaging? Watch the video to find out how it's trying to protect and how to outsmart it....
Getting Over Limerence (Needy Love) and Replacing It
It is SOOO frustrating. There you are, helpless, while you watch someone you love and care about go down the rathole. And there is nothing, absolutely nothing, you can do. Or at least, that is what you were thinking. But there is actually one thing. We’re talking...
Molly Turns People Pleasing Into Her Biggest Power (Situation #12)
You, too, can unleash your hidden powers. Molly was "just" a people pleaser but she turned it into her personal powerhouse. How? The secret is in what motivates the people pleasing. Please watch the 12th video in this serial playlist!...
Tom’s Path Out Of Depression
Tom does not want therapy. He is terrified of feeling like there's something wrong with him. Grudgingly, he starts therapy because the coaching he got backfired. He is shocked that he can learn the secret to taking control of his inner critic. It turns out to be...
Has TRAUMA Affected Your Life In Ways You Don’t Know?
Scenario #1: “Are you kidding?” Margie said to the marriage counselor. “You want me to tell Carl how I feel? Do you realize that if I share with him how hurt I am, that will come back to bite me in the rear?” So what’s normal? Is it normal for spouses to share...
Larry’s Unexpected Apology and Cheryl’s Tears (Situation #10)
Larry's apology at the end of an all-night drive leaves Cheryl in tears of anger - not happiness - and Larry feeling defensive and slipping out of that wonderful Self-energy he acquired during the night. Welcome to reality. Nevertheless, Larry has turned a corner and...