If you're new to this group, that title is certainly confusing. Don't worry! My livestream on Thursday will dig deep into what parts are, what Self energy is, and the rest of what IFS (Internal Family Systems) is about. But for now, the simple explanation is that...

 Someone said something recently that was all about Dreams. And all about how this new year could be for them - if they would permit it. Like most of the couples searching for answers in this group, they'd been married 20 years.  And, like most of the couples, they'd...

 No. It doesn't. You are stuck forever in taming the overburdened parts that pop up unexpectedly. So where's the good news?  The good news is it doesn't bother you any-more. In fact, it turns the problem into a gem.  The more Self energy you bring to your internal...

 I can hear someone out there muttering, "Boy, she's going off topic! I thought this was a group about Loving Yourself and Loving Your Marriage." Well, yes, kind of it is off topic. And then again, it's not. To love yourself means to love your LIFE. It means that life...

 What would it be like to hear someone near and dear to you criticizing you . . . . . . and not be bothered by it?  Maybe be concerned for them? Like, what's bothering them that they have to do this? And feel your heart open to them with compassion? What would that be...

 This is the third in a series. This all started with a live that I did a few weeks ago that was kinda rushed so I decided to elaborate a bit more in posts. 8. Has Tools But Doesn't Impose Them Why not?  If the therapist thinks they're good for you, what's wrong with...

 For the first 3 qualities of a Great Therapist, see previous post. (Part 1)  4. Wisdom  My definition of Wisdom is the ability to know what to say and do and what not to in each moment. If that's hard, I agree. It's built on three things: #1. experience.  The more...

50  Sure, a great therapist needs "skill." But skill at doing what? Not so clear, right? How do you measure the skill needed to save a marriage? - It's a tall order!  So without further ado, let me share my take on what makes a great therapist. 1. Being Non-judgmental...

 Think of all the bosses you've had.  What made a good one good?  Did they humiliate those under them?  Were they hard drivers?  Did they ignore good ideas?  How did they handle bad ideas?  Well you are the leader of your internal system of parts. You know those...

 Imagine a real conversation - Each person actually listens to the other person's point. No one gets defensive even when told they did something that hurt their partner. Something gets accomplished - a plan gets formed or each person gains a new awareness of how the...