by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Sep 21, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships
People really enjoy using the word “narcissist.” They just about gloat. As someone very close to me said, “Well, it describes a whole cluster of behaviors so once you’ve got that label, you go, ‘Oh now all the pieces are falling into...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Sep 19, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships
It’s the men who are contented and the women who are not. As I said in my last post, studies indicate that 70% of people who file for divorce are women. And if you think I’m railing against men for not being tuned into their wives, you’re not...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Sep 14, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships
“We’ve drifted too far.” “We have nothing in common anymore.” “She isn’t even talking to me.” “He just walks out the door without a word” “We’re separated.” . . . “So therefore, it...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Sep 12, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships
“She says she’s not in love with me anymore.” “He barely talks to me and says the connection is lost.” “We are on autopilot and don’t feel anything.” “Sex doesn’t exist. I caught her watching porn.”...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Sep 7, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships
Think of your marriage as a “thing” all by itself. Why bother? When you think of the marriage as a separate thing, it takes away all blame and finger pointing from yourself and from your partner. <<< I like this reason. So let’s look at what...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Sep 5, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships
Bruce Ecker, the creator of a tool for therapy called Juxtaposition, is a therapist. But he wasn’t always. From a desire to understand how the Universe works, he became a physicist. After decades of that, he realized it wasn’t answering his questions, so...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Aug 31, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships
Let’s get some definitions on the table first. IFS = Internal Family Systems, a method of therapy created by Dr. Richard C. Schwartz which is brilliant to the nth degree. This method of therapy says that you are not bad and even the parts of you – the...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Aug 29, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships
⭐️ “Yup, that’s what I’m doing,” I told my son. I was kind of surprised as the words came out of my mouth. This was a huge personal decision, a lifetime dream. ⭐️ When I grew up, got married, had kids, went back...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Aug 24, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships
Like John Gottman, Sue Johnson is well known for her work with couples, and unlike Gottman, she focuses on emotions, the very building blocks of all behavior. So what’s the problem? Oh, there’s a big one. Let me ask you a question: Why do people act in...
