by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Oct 19, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships
“I am so sad.” “I feel like I’ve lost years of my life through the mistakes I’ve made.” “I keep messing up; I don’t like myself because of it.” “The only person in the world who ever loved me was Him (or...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Oct 17, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships
Part 5: Trigger Tracking This is the last in our series. When you go over all the posts from the first 4 parts and you add in the Juxtaposition which I did September 1, 2022, plus this one, you’ve got the essence of the most important tools that we use to help...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Oct 12, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships
Part 4: Distress Tolerance You will find Parts 1, 2, and 3 fascinating, so I suggest you go back and check those out. Meanwhile, let’s plunge into what Distress Tolerance is and how it is a great transition to Internal Family Systems (IFS) work. Distress...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Oct 10, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships
Part 3: Positive Thinking We’re on a roll here. You’re starting to get all the tools of my course for free! Yikes! Why would I do that? Because if I’ve helped you, great. And if you need more help, then you will know exactly what it is we do and how...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Oct 5, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships
A Five-Part Series. Part 2: Breathing If you’re new to this group, maybe you haven’t noticed how often I share the wonders of Internal Family Systems (IFS), the brilliant methodology for healing wounds – and most importantly, discovering and loving...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Oct 3, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships
A Five-Part Series. Part 1: Affirmations Or another way of putting this is, “Hey, DrDeb. You keep talking up Internal Family Systems and how great it is; why do you also teach other tools?” All the tools fit into each other like a neat crossword puzzle....
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Sep 28, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships
Sledgehammers and chainsaws are great tools. They pound what’s needed and they cut down trees. But don’t use them to kill ants, please. We humans come fully equipped with powerful parts that basically run a tight ship for us. There is a part that gets me...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Sep 26, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships
Here’s my answer: There’s no reason to actually try to change someone who is already good, kind, generous, wise, and connected. That doesn’t sound like anybody you know, right? But it is. See, here is what I believe – and my team believes...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Sep 22, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships
It is absolutely driving you crazy. Every “discussion” that turns into an argument takes all the supposedly resolved things and brings them up again. You’ve apologized. You’ve admitted you were wrong. You’ve committed not to do...
