by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Mar 15, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
“We could never have a peaceful discussion.” “Every time I want to talk about my feelings, I get accused of picking on him/her” “No matter how many pleasant requests I’ve made to stop [ X ] it doesn’t stop. I get no...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Mar 1, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
Okay. Take a comfortable seat. Imagine the “part” of you that – – feels like a victim – is angry – or depressed – or anxious – or nervous – or full of shame and guilt . . . imagine whichever one of those you might...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 22, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
It’s not you. Really. And it’s not them, either, actually. I mean it. So whose fault is it? It’s not a fault. It just is. Communication breaks down because two people who have already suffered some hurt in their lives find each other, fall in love,...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 8, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
The first time I heard about this crazy method of changing our moods, almost automatically, I had flown across the ocean to see one son, his wife and his children – my grandchildren. I hadn’t seen them in two years, shame on me, and I couldn’t wait....
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 1, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
Jill was exasperated. “Trust me,” she said, “I tried everything so that I don’t start screaming. Believe me, I don’t want to be that kind of person!” she exclaimed emphatically. “Just so you know, I’m doing meditation...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 30, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
To be successful, you’ve got to think. Well, yeah….So what? Here’s the problem with thinking: Thinking’s great. I do it myself, lol. I couldn’t have written a dissertation and gotten through grad school without it. But… When it comes to...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 25, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
I love, love, love that you guys – my wonderful readers in this group – have absorbed the main point that I’ve been pushing all along – You’re not broken! You’re not sick! You’re not evil! But….. You (and I) are human!! So...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 19, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
Day after day, everything remains the same. They make promises they don’t keep – because they can’t. They don’t know how. They don’t know what a “good” life feels like. Or they ignore your pleas, your tears, your...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 18, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) believes it has an answer to the problem so many of us are plagued with of what they call “limiting beliefs.” Those are things we truly believe about ourselves, like: I’m no good. I’m a bad parent. I should...
