verbal abuse

Verbal Abuse at Work: How to Shoot Yourself in the Foot

by Deb Hirschhorn | Oct 2, 2011 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse

No one can afford to turn away potential customers, yet thousands of people are doing just that every day. They are also begging to be fired. Just ask Carol Bartz. You may be familiar with her name. She was hired as CEO of Yahoo.com in 2009, and by September, 2011,...

3-Step Formula When Abusive Parents Visit for The Holidays

by Deb Hirschhorn | Nov 24, 2006 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse

We were making progress, this new couple and I. Eli was getting it. He realized that his sarcastic remarks, his put-downs, his glares, and his barely-controlled anger all constitute verbal abuse. He was starting to work effectively with his tools, too. He had...

The Blame Addiction In Relationships

by Deb Hirschhorn | Aug 18, 2006 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse

REPRINTED WITH PERMISSION from the Florida Jewish Journal, p. 14 “It’s your fault!” Robbie screamed. “Do you understand what you did? Do you understand what a terrible loss this means?” His screams filled the air with a sick heaviness, a light and bright afternoon...

You’re Walking On Eggshells? —GOOD!

by Deb Hirschhorn | Jan 20, 2006 | Marriage and Relationships

REPRINTED WITH PERMISSION from the Florida Jewish News, p. 16. “Can’t I express myself?” the man asked me with annoyance. “I think I should be able to be honest with my own wife!” another one haruumphed at me. “Why should I always watch out for his feelings?” a woman...

8 More Ways To Heal From Abuse

by Deb Hirschhorn | Dec 9, 2003 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse

Many people don’t even realize that they were (or are being) abused. But the assumption that the pain will go away is not correct. What is needed is to take active steps towards recovery. This includes a bunch of wonderful tools. 1. The First Tool Is To Discover...

Substance Abuse & Family Abuse–They’re Connected

by Deb Hirschhorn | Dec 4, 2003 | Mental Health

Substance abuse and addictions do not occur in a vacuum. It is not merely the result of vulnerable kids becoming involved with the wrong crowd. If only it were that simple. In fact, substance abuse is more a symptom of the real problem than “the” problem....

7 Things You Can Do To Heal From Abuse

by Deb Hirschhorn | Dec 4, 2003 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse

1. Accept The Fact That Everything You Did Made Sense I was once speaking to a brilliant and accomplished woman who had recovered from alcohol abuse. She had been severely emotionally and verbally abused most of her life. Abuse hurts. Sometimes there is only one way...

“You’re hypersensitive!”

by Deb Hirschhorn | Jun 8, 2003 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse

“My wife is emotionally hypersensitive. She is hurt by things that wouldn’t bother me at all if someone said them to me.” This is an excellent question. The answer is buried in the old pain of your own childhood. What happened to you went like this:...

Attraction: What If Two Victims of Abuse Marry Each Other?

by Deb Hirschhorn | Feb 28, 2003 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse

People can be verbally, emotionally, sexually, or physically abused; there’s also exposure to substance abuse, borderline disorder, post traumatic stress, and there’s more too. An abused person could become both a victim (say of a spouse or boss at work)...