by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Mar 18, 2013 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
There are people who don’t allow the feeling of compassion in. That may seem amazing to you: If someone else said they are hurt, how can you not feel badly about it? The answer is that they come from worlds away where tears don’t stir emotions; they are hardened –...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Sep 29, 2006 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
What’s your reaction when someone tells you, “You hurt my feelings”? There could be two possible reactions: You’re going to be either me-focused or other-focused. That is, if you’re me-focused, you’re going to feel irritated, offended, angry, insulted or—this...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 13, 2002 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
Don’t rush to get hurt feelings–Stay away from playing the victim in your relationship. Ask yourself one, two, three, four, even five times: Did she really mean to hurt me? Because if your spouse, lover, friend did not really mean it, you can choose not to...
