assertiveness

I Hate My Partner!

by Deb Hirschhorn | Mar 17, 2016 | Marriage and Relationships

Forget about love being gone. You’re way past that. You hate your partner and you want out. You hate your partner because he/she: stifles your identity; you feel crushed; you no longer know who you are is cheating says things that really cut, often insisting he/she...

DrDeb’s Book Review: Difficult Conversations

by Deb Hirschhorn | Mar 10, 2016 | Marriage and Relationships

“Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most” by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, and Sheila Heen are from the Harvard Business School, of all things! But that is precisely why we can benefit from listening to what they have to say. Let me...

How To Block People Who Argue — And Get What You Want

by Deb Hirschhorn | Jan 18, 2016 | Marriage and Relationships

Why is it that people insist on trying to win arguments by shooting themselves in the foot? Adam: “I did NOT say that I would go to your mother’s for dinner.” Sally: “Yes you did. And I don’t appreciate your letting me down.”...

Tone Of Voice2: How To Ask Questions

by Deb Hirschhorn | Jan 14, 2016 | Marriage and Relationships

The Surprising Role of Body Language in Assertiveness

by Deb Hirschhorn | Dec 31, 2015 | Marriage and Relationships

How does it get this good?…. “My wife and I are together, and expect to be forever. We’ve learned to deal with one another and learned to identify and control our bad habits. I’ve learned why I was an abusive man and how to not be an abuser....

Self Esteem, Selfishness and Selflessness

by Deb Hirschhorn | Dec 10, 2012 | Mental Health

Okay, here’s a question: Do you put yourself first or others first? Here’s another question: What is the right thing to do regarding the first question? Third question: Who told you that? Where did that message come from? And the final question: Where does self-esteem...

How to Be Assertive and Get Treated Like an Equal

by Deb Hirschhorn | Apr 10, 2012 | Marriage and Relationships

You may remember I was letting you peek into the lives of Cally and Tim. Tim was a busy, focused man and when he needed something from Cally, he would simply give her marching orders. His demeanor, though cold, was not rude, and Cally could not put her finger on why...

Two Simple Secrets of Assertiveness

by Deb Hirschhorn | Apr 5, 2012 | Marriage and Relationships

Cally was rushing. She was making something that had to get put in the oven in just 15 min in order to come out on time for her to dash off to do carpool. Hopefully, the baby wouldn’t mind being awakened from her nap at that point. Her days—and nights—were always like...

Assertiveness Gets What You Want

by Deb Hirschhorn | Nov 7, 2006 | Marriage and Relationships

REPRINTED WITH PERMISSION from the Florida Jewish Journal “Boy, what he did to me infuriates me,” Jack told me as his face turned red. “No, that isn’t enough,” he went on, “I want to do him one better. He deserves it. Getting even isn’t good enough for him.” “You...