You are sick and tired of this.

Sick of him not being home. Sick of his lies. Sick of the distance, the disconnection. Sick of putting up with feeling second class, unimportant.

You cannot tolerate it. And why should you? You’re a good person. No reason whatever for this to be going on.

You are done. You have spoken to an attorney. This is no way to live.

I agree with you. This is not how life should be lived. It’s not even living. It’s worse than barely existing. It’s as if you could put a minus sign in front of it and say it’s less than being alive although it’s not quite being dead. Almost, though.

And it’s not as if you didn’t try to fix it. You certainly did.

You dragged him to marriage counseling. You do not want to get going on how that fiasco went. You did nothing but rehash problems. You wanted to move on but there was no moving on. You were stuck in the past. You both agreed, at least, on one thing – the counseling was less than worthless.

You retreated into your usual corners.

Where will it go from here? Divorce?

That’s a bad option, not at all a pleasant experience besides being costly. What’s more, you will be left only with bad memories and pain afterward. Try another possibility. Try the Marriage You Want program.

It really IS possible to learn to be different. To be caring, concerned, connected. To get your head out of victim mode and into solution mode. To actually be a listener. To put your partner first.

Oddly enough, it has to begin with loving yourself.

Because to truly make another person feel loved, you have to truly love yourself. After all, how can they love you if you don’t love you? But it is not only possible to do, it’s necessary. What’s going to happen if you don’t take this step? Things are already falling apart. Do you need to wait til they come crashing down?

Listen, making the necessary changes is eminently do-able. It just takes grit and determination like when your parents took the training wheels off your bike and you made it your business to stay on the bike and not fall. And when you fell, you tried it again.

You can change the game plan. Yes, it is possible. Not easy, but possible. Are you willing to do what it takes to learn? I can guarantee that you will become the best self you can be, which means a whole lot happier with who you are regardless of what your partner ends up doing. AND it will dramatically increase the probability that they WILL come back to you emotionally.

Let me show you how. Book a call with me. https://drdeb.com/book