Of course. Who wants to keep doing what you’ve been doing, whatever it is – coldness or the other extreme, fighting? Who wants to keep reminding someone of what you want and need and not get heard?
I get that. Sick of getting up in the morning and looking at a face that seems dead to you.
Sick of eating a cold dinner alone, finding texts you wish you didn’t, being told you’re worthless or unloved.
Who wants that?
And then you tried therapy and that went on and on and on — and things got worse. Well, you got a chance to talk. You got heard. That was nice. But the SITUATION got worse. So where was the benefit?
And we heard about you but, very frankly, I am tired of waiting and tired of living this way. You’re drilling my tooth down to the nerve and I can’t handle it!!
So I’m going to answer you two different ways:
Way 1
Yes, what I’m going to teach you in Marriage You Want will take a lifetime to learn well.
(You’re gloating, “See! I knew it!”) But not so fast.
EVERYTHING worthwhile in life takes a lifetime to perfect. Do you have a jumpshot that you’re famous for? Or a chocolate cheese cake recipe? Or a tune on the piano? Whatever it is that you do well, you know in your heart of hearts that you could tweak it here and tinker there to get it even better. That’s called “Life.” It’s about learning and growing as a human being.
BUT here’s Way 2
What I’m going to teach you can be learned rapidly. It’s not complicated. As one of my clients said to me, “This stuff is obvious – once you explain it! I just didn’t know it before.”
And the reality is that it will make sense immediately, you will embrace it, you’ll love it, and then you’ll forget and need to go back and review. That’s called Life. My clients who succeed DO NOT GIVE UP. They keep working on stuff.
So, yes, I get that you are sick and tired, or your spouse is. But remember, you did not have *me* in the equation before. You’re going to turn a corner now.
You and/or your spouse are going to at last be able to share, to discuss differences without getting angry or feeling hurt, be able to see each other’s perspectives, laugh, have fun, go places and do things without worries of how the other will react. You’ll be calm and relaxed. Only kind words will come out of each other’s mouths. Can a person really ask for more?
But like I said, it takes grit and determination to stay with the program and do things that are totally new to you. And yes, it will take a few weeks. If your spouse can’t wait that long, I do have a suggestion: Why not spend the time working on the program himself/herself at the same time? The time goes a lot more quickly when you’re absorbed in something fascinating instead of eyeing the other person for all the problems he/she has caused.
Book a call and find out exactly how long you will need and what I can teach you. Let’s get some clarity on your situation! https://drdeb.com/book or if you want more information, watch the Masterclass: https://drdeb.com/myw-masterclass.