Did you ever hear the story of the two frogs? One was thrown into a pot of boiling water and he
jumped out very quickly – and was saved.
The other frog was put in an empty pot. Shortly, some nice, cool, refreshing water was being
filled up in the pot and the frog was very happy. Then the pot went on the stove and the light was
turned on. The frog noticed the pot start to get warm. It was a bit uncomfortable. But we can all
put up with a little discomfort, right? Life is not perfect! There will be moments that aren’t so
good….
However, the water started to get warmer and started to heat up. It was very uncomfortable. But
the frog was USED TO THAT, after all, so he stayed in the hot water. A point came when it
became too hot for the frog to survive, and he died.
How many of us are that second frog?
We put up and put up and put up.
After all, life is not always perfect. We are not supposed to be softies. We are not supposed to be
selfish. Right?
Right?
We put up with terrible coldness. We put up with name calling. We put up with suspicions we
don’t want to think about. We put up with wondering where our mate even is. We put up with
being falsely accused. We put up with fights that never end. We put up with never being
understood, not being heard – eternal frustration. We put up with so much!
Shouldn’t we? What’s the choice? We certainly don’t want to break up our families. We love – or
once loved – our spouses. We love our children and want the best for them. Right?
Absolutely. All that is true.
But don’t be the second frog. Don’t allow yourself to get so used to the heat that you just numb
out from all of it and let it get worse and worse. You can think you’re surviving but you’re not.
What I didn’t tell you about the second frog is that if he were a human, he might turn to alcohol,
drugs, gambling, porn, shopping, or other addictions. He might have high blood pressure or a
heart condition. He might go around miserable every single day and one day end everything the
wrong way.
Because neither frogs nor humans were meant to suffer. You do not have to suffer. Nor should
you.
Your happiness ought to be your priority. If you want to know how to make that happen –
without divorce – book a call with me: https://drdeb.com/book