The worst thing in the world to Jim was to be dominated. He absolutely could not stand that. It was an attack on his Self-hood, his identity. “No one, not a boss, not a wife, not a child, no one should dominate me,” was his theme song.Well, not a song. Obviously.
But although maybe he couldn’t express it in those very words, Jim simply reacted to what looked to him like domination. Or felt like it.It wasn’t something he thought out, actually. It was just a reaction.
And it happened in hair-splitting time.
One minute he and Margie were talking nicely and a second later, boom! Margie lost patience for this years ago. She was deeply insulted by the implication that she was controlling or as he would put it, dominating. After all, the only thing she ever wanted was to just feel free to tell Jim her feelings.And what she wanted.
And what she didn’t want.
Is that so bad?
After all, shouldn’t you be able to do that in a marriage? Shouldn’t you feel free to be accepted for who you really are without being told things about you that aren’t true?Or as Margie has occasionally said, “Don’t tell me who I am.”
So, of course, she got mad as well.
How can anyone, any therapist turn this into something good and beautiful? – no fights, no misunderstanding, no hair-split nasty answers. How?And without changing who you are, either?
But rather, through finding OUT who you are?How?
Come find out tonight at 9 PM Eastern time for our zoom Live!