by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Oct 5, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
There’s that awful feeling of not loving yourself…. …being out of sorts… …disconnected from your inner core…. It’s not the state humans were meant to be in. It’s a state of warning – fix this! Just like touching a hot...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Oct 2, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
I have a question: Why does this spouse want to gain control? Actually, that’s not my only question. Here’s another one: Why can’t he/she gain control the usual way, like by being nice? Sweet-talking? See, the whole thing with control is that...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Sep 12, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
Therapy actually can be short. Here’s the combo you need: *an excellent therapist (do a search in the group or on my blog of “what makes a good therapist” and you’ll see a bunch of articles.) *a client who had a lot of emotional support growing...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Aug 7, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
Men and women are equal opportunity abusers. And none of them have the right to abuse others. But . . . There’s something you should know that makes it not quite as easy as all that. See, anybody who is self-aware, connected, clear-headed, calm, compassionate,...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Aug 2, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
“I’m calm!” Susan said, her nose just a bit in the air. “I’m not upset at all. I’m just telling you that my husband is a mean, rotten person. He is not nice at all. I just want you to know.” Is Susan in Self Energy as she...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jul 26, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
Do you mean the word, “anything”? Really? Because I would bet that you both agree that you wouldn’t want to make a few extra dollars by scamming little old men and ladies out of their life savings. Right? See, the real thing is not that you don’t agree on “anything.”...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jul 20, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
After years of exhausting “discussions” that went nowhere, Sheila had lost all belief in herself. Not only that, she didn’t even know what she believed. And the question is: Where is that belief supposed to come from now? Should she get divorced and find someone who...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jul 19, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
The original story of crazy-making, a 1938 British play, was made into a 1944 movie called Gas Light. A man wishes to make his wife think she is going crazy, most likely to be able to take over the mansion that she was raised in. He seduces her to fall in love and...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jul 17, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
Here’s a few questions to start off the discussion: 1. Are you still together? If so, why are you when the behavior didn’t change? 2. Do you love this person who you resent? If so, why do you? 3. Have you discussed the situation and your mutual goals? If not, why not?...
