by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 7, 2006 | Marriage and Relationships
We all know what positive reinforcement is: Something you give to someone to increase behavior you want. You give it following the behavior and, if done with skill and intelligence, it will lead to more of the same. For example, you tell the woman you’re out with,...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jun 30, 2006 | Marriage and Relationships
REPRINTED WITH PERMISSION from the Florida Jewish News She sat there in a puddle of tears and justifiably so. She had had a very hard life, married to a man who mistreated her. Now, at last she was on the brink of freedom as he lay in the hospital in a coma from an...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Mar 3, 2006 | Marriage and Relationships
REPRINTED WITH PERMISSION from the Florida Jewish News, pp. 12, 20 One of my pet peeves is using the word “adult,” as in “adult movie” because, in fact, the nature of relationships in the so-called “adult” scene are so juvenile. Who watches such things? People with...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 20, 2006 | Marriage and Relationships
REPRINTED WITH PERMISSION from the Florida Jewish News, p. 16. “Can’t I express myself?” the man asked me with annoyance. “I think I should be able to be honest with my own wife!” another one haruumphed at me. “Why should I always watch out for his feelings?” a woman...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 5, 2004 | Marriage and Relationships
We have an expression in the Jewish tradition which goes, “Also this is for [the] Good!” It is said with a smile and written with an exclamation point. In the case of divorce, it is a very hard expression about which to be sincere. One wonders how in the...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Dec 9, 2003 | Marriage and Relationships
What do porn and substance abuse have in common?: They are both mind-numbing escapes from emotional pain. They both do that very well, engaging the attention of the victims caught in their grip so completely that they can actually fool themselves into believing they...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Dec 4, 2003 | Marriage and Relationships
There are two ways to make custody evaluations holistic 1. The “whole” picture means the past, present, and future are equally important. During custody disputes, there is a recognition that everyone is under stress and therefore not going to look their...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jun 8, 2003 | Marriage and Relationships
Do you see the glass (of your marriage) as half empty or half full? The most fascinating part of this question is that both would be correct and both represent the same set of facts. No matter what you see, you can call it half empty or half full and both would be...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 28, 2003 | Marriage and Relationships
If you have wandered around this website, you will notice that there are links to a bunch of other websites all of which represent possible results of having been verbally, emotionally, sexually, or physically abused: substance abuse, borderline disorder, post...
