Marriage and Relationships

How To Get Your Needs Met When Someone’s Not Listening

by Deb Hirschhorn | Dec 2, 2011 | Marriage and Relationships

In my last post, I defined co-dependency. The key ingredient in it is that the supposed “victim” gets something out of the spouse’s bad behavior. Today I want to look at it from a different angle. Above all, a marriage is meant to be a friendship. It cannot be a...

Are You Codependent?

by Deb Hirschhorn | Nov 30, 2011 | Marriage and Relationships

It’s always bad to put labels on people—especially yourself—just by looking at the outer behavior. For example, a person with a tremor could have a brain dysfunction, a motor problem, delirium from a life of drinking, or plain old fear. How can you know which it is by...

3 Things People Can Do To Help Spouses Overcome Insecurity

by Deb Hirschhorn | Nov 8, 2011 | Marriage and Relationships

Elizabeth stood back and looked at the job she had just completed. She had created a display for her work team and it was clear and well organized. But Elizabeth walked off in disgust, thinking it was awful. And no one could convince her otherwise. She came home...

The Silver Lining In Your (Bad) Marriage

by Deb Hirschhorn | Oct 24, 2011 | Marriage and Relationships

Let’s call this topic “spiritual.” It’s part of the marriage and family counseling process and there is no way to get away from it. Sometimes silver linings are so big they cover the whole cloud. In order for your marriage to work, it helps to see that Life has...

How to Prevent an Ugly Divorce

by Deb Hirschhorn | Sep 6, 2011 | Marriage and Relationships

Evan roared at Sloane. She had just woken up and already her husband of a decade was in a fierce mood. Her heart started pounding and she raced into the bathroom and locked the door, breathless. What could be wrong this time? And how long must this go on? With three...

3 Secrets for A Positive Attitude about Your Marriage & Kids

by Deb Hirschhorn | Aug 31, 2011 | Marriage and Relationships

I’ve been saying a lot about the power of the mind. So if you want to know how I think that incredible information can be applied to marriage and family, here it is: Learn to see the positive; learn to say it positively. Three Bad Stories This is a hard one. It’s hard...

Don’t Call it “Adult Content,” Call it “Childish”

by Deb Hirschhorn | May 14, 2008 | Marriage and Relationships

The kindergarten class was just simmering down after recess. Several little boys were hysterically giggling in a corner while the teacher attempted to get the class back to their seats. As she approached the gaggle of rowdies, she overheard snippets of conversation. A...

A Key to Creating Intimacy in Your Marriage

by Deb Hirschhorn | Jan 19, 2007 | Marriage and Relationships

REPRINTED WITH PERMISSION OF the Florida Jewish News You check off the mental list: You’ve never been abusive. You remember anniversaries, birthdays. True, you never seem to get the right gift, but you’re head and shoulders above the poor sucker who forgot all...

The Secret of Gift Giving

by Deb Hirschhorn | Dec 15, 2006 | Marriage and Relationships

REPRINTED WITH PERMISSION from the Florida Jewish News A key, maybe THE key to relationships is being a giver, not a taker. But even that isn’t enough. You have to give what the other person actually wants, not what YOU would want. Scene 1 The old lady shuffled...

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