by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jun 18, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
It’s unethical to give out bandaids. Here are examples of bandaids: • books • articles • listening forever and saying, “Awww” to complaints and problems How many of these have actually created changes in the reader, listener, or participant? Changes...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jun 14, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
I’m not going to mince words. The answer is that if you THINK you love someone else more than yourself, it’s not love in the first place. You didn’t love them that much and you surely didn’t love yourself that much either. Why? Why do I say...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jun 11, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
I myself used to subscribe to this myth. After all, I was a marriage counselor. How do you do marriage counseling with only one person?? That was until, we’ll call him Joey, came to see me, insisting that his wife wanted no part of therapy. We worked slowly...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jun 4, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
There was this guy who would not look at me. He sat in our session with his arms crossed, looking elsewhere. He admitted he was “irritated.” His wife was sitting there in tears, and through her tears, she said, “This is what it’s like for me!...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | May 31, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
Did you know that right now, it’s possible for you to fall in love — with each other — again? I’ll explain how in just a second. But first, let’s talk about why so many people think this is impossible. The truth is that you’ve been LET DOWN. Let down by so...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | May 28, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
The prevailing wisdom is that if someone is a narcissist, they cannot change so you have to leave them. And you have total proof because YOUR narcissist did not change. You ranted. You raved. You ignored. You threatened. You’re sorry to say you even had an...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | May 24, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
When your spouse finally learns that you’ve caught him or her cheating – in one way or another – what’s the usual reaction? They get defensive. They cover it up. They minimize it. And they’re not the ones reading this post. You are. The...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | May 21, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
I’ve heard the story too many times of people who go to therapy to fix a problem and they walk out with a bigger one. The therapist wants to hear what’s going on so the couple obliges by starting a fight! Right there in front of the therapist. The...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | May 17, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
Peter was miserable and didn’t know why. He decided it was his wife’s, Elizabeth’s, fault. After all, she was his wife; she was supposed to love him, and since he was miserable, she must have let him down in some way. He didn’t know what way,...
