by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Aug 21, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
Polls show that “poor communication” is the key to marriages falling apart. Here are some reasons for poor communication: Victim thinking Victim thinking means that someone is interpreting every communication in which another person expresses a desire for...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Aug 18, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
Hey Spouse, It hurts for your partner to no longer believe in you. It steals your possibilities away, right? Basically, it says that you are a robot that cannot escape your programming. As if you didn’t have free choice. So why did they convince themselves in...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Aug 14, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
This guy was pretty unhappy. He said he didn’t want to think about the possibility that his wife would end the marriage. He spoke with great pain about that fight they had in which the horrible “D” word was uttered. As we were going through the call...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Aug 11, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
When it comes to cars, I don’t care if I’m driving a Lexus, a Honda, or a Farari. I really wouldn’t. Yes, I notice the bumps in the road with the regular, run-of-the-mill car, but only for the first few minutes. Then my mind goes somewhere else and...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Aug 7, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
Suzie was crying as she related to me all her attempts to convince her therapist that she was not ready for divorce. Lazy therapist: But he is a cheater. How will you ever trust him again? Suzie: I get it. I don’t know. That’s what you’re for. To...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Aug 4, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
As I look at all the people I’ve worked with over time and the people that I’m currently helping across rocky terrain, one thing becomes clear to me: Our society dismisses emotions. It’s normal to dismiss something you don’t understand. Not too...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jul 31, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
Here are 4 categories of people running away from themselves: People addicted to one thing or another – alcohol, drugs, gambling, porn, shopping, working exceptionally long hours, explosive anger/rages, lying, or cheating. Schizophrenics, Narcissists. Those who...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jul 30, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
Did you ever hear the story of the two frogs? One was thrown into a pot of boiling water and he jumped out very quickly – and was saved. The other frog was put in an empty pot. Shortly, some nice, cool, refreshing water was being filled up in the pot and the...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jul 26, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
Imagine the scene inside a therapy office: Therapist: So who wants to start off? Let me know why you’re here, okay? Sheila: We’re here because George has been pulling away from me for a long time. Therapist: How long? Sheila: At least five years....
