by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Oct 29, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
I myself used to subscribe to this myth. After all, I was a marriage counselor. How do you do marriage counseling with only one person?? That was until, we’ll call him Joey, came to see me, insisting that his wife wanted no part of therapy. We worked slowly...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Oct 22, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
I’ve heard the story too many times of people who go to therapy to fix a problem and they walk out with a bigger one. The therapist wants to hear what’s going on so the couple obliges by starting a fight! Right there in front of the therapist. The...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Oct 18, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
Peter was miserable and didn’t know why. He decided it was his wife’s, Elizabeth’s, fault. After all, she was his wife; she was supposed to love him, and since he was miserable, she must have let him down in some way. He didn’t know what way,...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Oct 15, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
The prevailing wisdom is that if someone is a narcissist, they cannot change so you have to leave them. And you have total proof because YOUR narcissist did not change. You ranted. You raved. You ignored. You threatened. You’re sorry to say you even had an...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Oct 11, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
Mary screamed. She did not like herself screaming. She hated it. But she couldn’t help it. She screamed at Tim. It was nasty. Tim retreated to his phone. In fact, he walked out the door and retreated to his phone. But the reality is that Tim did not do any of...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Oct 8, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
Hey, I’ll Bet You Love Being Examined Under A Microscope I once was interning to acquire the number of hours necessary for my license. I met with a particular family. They were really lovely people. Okay, they would fight. Okay, they didn’t seem to know...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Oct 4, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
I would like to share with you a compliment I got recently. I never know what people are thinking until you tell me, and I was very touched by this compliment. I asked this individual why they reached out to me and they said something like, “You have a way...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Sep 29, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
Should I Listen To The Advice Everyone’s Giving Me To Leave My Abusive Spouse? You don’t know what to do. It’s happened again. You’ve gotten yelled at. Made fun of. Put down. Name-called. Gotten eyeballs rolled. Threatened. Even a little of...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Sep 25, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
You are sick and tired of this. Sick of him not being home. Sick of his lies. Sick of the distance, the disconnection. Sick of putting up with feeling second class, unimportant. You cannot tolerate it. And why should you? You’re a good person. No reason whatever...
