by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Dec 17, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
He was beside himself. At four in the morning, Steve got a call from the police. His wife was out cold behind the steering wheel of her car which was that close to being completely wrapped around a tree. He could feel his breath come in short spurts. He was expecting...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Dec 13, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
Suppose a client walks into a therapist’s office every week for a month and each time, he has a spot on his shirt. He is down and out, looking for a job and can’t get one. Should the therapist: tell him flat out that he has spots on his clothes? ignore the...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Dec 10, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
According to researchers – who’ve spent their entire careers studying romantic love and passion – it is possible! The researchers studied the brains of couples who were married at least 10 years. They completed all kinds of self-report tests, looked...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Dec 3, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
I Look Abusers In The Eye I tell them what’s what. With love. Because they’re not inherently evil. We’re going to take a peek into little Randy’s house. Randy is four years old. His three-year-old sister just got a gift from a doting aunt. It...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 29, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
My dissertation took forever. Being slightly — only slightly, mind you — OCD, I had to do the most thorough job of research ever. It actually was about 8 years. Well, I had little kids; sue me. Anyway, when I was all done, I had this stack of transcripts...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 26, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
“George was the Pitts. Always arguing. Always had to be Right. Could not allow my point of view, ever. So annoying. So frustrating. I’m ready to Scream when I think of George.So I left him. Good riddance. Lucky I didn’t have kids but if I did, I...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 8, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
When your spouse finally learns that you’ve caught him or her cheating – in one way or another – what’s the usual reaction? They get defensive. They cover it up. They minimize it. And they’re not the ones reading this post. You are. The...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 5, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
There was this guy who would not look at me. He sat in our session with his arms crossed, looking elsewhere. He admitted he was “irritated.” His wife was sitting there in tears, and through her tears, she said, “This is what it’s like for me!...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 2, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
Did you know that right now, it’s possible for you to fall in love — with each other — again? I’ll explain how in just a second. But first, let’s talk about why so many people think this is impossible. The truth is that you’ve been LET DOWN. Let down by so...
