by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 25, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
You are sick and tired of this. Sick of him not being home. Sick of his lies. Sick of the distance, the disconnection. Sick of putting up with feeling second class, unimportant. You cannot tolerate it. And why should you? You’re a good person. No reason whatever...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 21, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
Isn’t it nice to go to someone who really listens? I mean after trying and trying to get through to your spouse – for years – to finally have the therapist sit there calmly and patiently listening, isn’t that wonderful? And then they get it....
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 18, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
The answer is zero. Why do I say that? Because the unwritten rule in therapy is that you don’t have to accomplish anything. There is no guarantee that you’ll get “there.” In fact, neither one of you knows where “there” is. I know. I...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 14, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
Leave An Abuser! Run! Should I Listen To The Advice Everyone’s Giving Me To Leave My Abusive Spouse? You don’t know what to do. It’s happened again. You’ve gotten yelled at. Made fun of. Put down. Name-called. Gotten eyeballs rolled....
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 11, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
Not always, but mostly, the burden of change in the marriage falls on the man. Why is that? Statistically, 70% of divorces are initiated by women. That’s a phenomenal number. Why is that? It seems that the old saying is true, “happy wife, happy...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 7, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
Eva walks in the door and Tom, her husband, barely looks at her, barely speaks to her. Tom is stealing Eva’s happiness. Why? Why would he do that? He’ll tell you that he’s not happy. He’ll tell you that Eva is the problem, the reason....
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 31, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
I absolutely hate being negative because I believe in people – even therapists. But I keep hearing how people argue in the therapy room and go out no better than they came in. Why doesn’t it work? Well, if you’ve been in therapy, check and see if...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 28, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
I was on the phone with a woman who was desperate to fix her marriage and my heart broke for her. But I knew I would not be helping her. She started off telling me the names her husband called her and then I was thinking, “I work with verbal abusers; no...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 24, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
Someone named Mr. Edwards asked me if his wife was “ready” for marital therapy because he didn’t think she was. The question puzzled me. Why does anyone have to be ready? You just do it. Like the time, when I was about 8 years old in summer camp and...
