by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Dec 22, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
According to researchers – who’ve spent their entire careers studying romantic love and passion – it is possible to be in love for life. The researchers studied the brains of couples who were married at least 10 years. They completed all kinds of...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Dec 15, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
The Best Self-Care: Compassion For The Messed-Up Partner He was beside himself. At four in the morning, Steve got a call from the police. His wife was out cold behind the steering wheel of her car which was that close to being completely wrapped around a tree. He...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Dec 1, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
I look abusers in the eye I tell them what’s what. With love. Because they’re not inherently evil. We’re going to take a peek into little Randy’s house. Randy is four years old. His three-year-old sister just got a gift from a doting aunt. It...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 27, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
Suppose a client walks into a therapist’s office every week for a month and each time, he has a spot on his shirt. He is down and out, looking for a job and can’t get one. Should the therapist: tell him flat out that he has spots on his clothes? ignore the...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 24, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
Coaching isn’t about feelings, right? That’s what I used to think. That is, until I put together my own coaching program. Which clearly focuses on feelings. How could it not? Feelings run the world! Politics is all about feelings. Love and marriage –...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 17, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
I was never a therapist who was content to listen and say, “Awww” to complaints and problems. Mind you, I am compassionate. I’m not as hard-nosed as it might sound here. But I also am a roll-up-your-sleeves type of person. Whether that’s preparing a...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 13, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
My dissertation took forever. Being slightly — only slightly, mind you — OCD, I had to do the most thorough job of research ever. It actually was about 8 years. Well, I had little kids; sue me. Anyway, when I was all done, I had this stack of transcripts...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 10, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
I myself used to subscribe to the myth that it requires two people to make a marriage work. After all, I was a marriage counselor. How do you do marriage counseling with only one person?? That was until, we’ll call him Joey, came to see me, insisting that his...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 3, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
There was this guy who would not look at me. He sat in our session with his arms crossed, looking elsewhere. He admitted he was “irritated.” His wife was sitting there in tears, and through her tears, she said, “This is what it’s like for me!...
