by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 29, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
Finally, your spouse got it. He or she realized it was mean to be mean. And they apologized. From the heart. But something strange has happened. You’re doing the same thing back. Saying nasty things. Hitting below the belt. And they’re suffering. Now...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 27, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
I was reading Steven Stosny the other day and he said something profound. He has been working for decades on helping people who’ve been not merely angry, but sometimes enraged, to feel compassion. This is no easy matter because highly angry people often...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 26, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
Mary screamed. She did not like herself screaming. She hated it. But she couldn’t help it. She screamed at Tim. It was nasty. Tim retreated to his phone. In fact, he walked out the door and retreated to his phone. But the reality is that Tim did not fix any of...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 19, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
You are sick and tired of this. Sick of him/her not being home. Sick of the lies. Sick of the distance, the disconnection. Sick of putting up with feeling second class, unimportant. You cannot tolerate it. And why should you? You’re a good person. No reason...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 15, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
70% of divorces are initiated by women. Why is that? It seems that the old saying is true, “happy wife, happy life.” Do men have simpler needs? Are women harder to please? What’s going on? Strength One truth is that for centuries, men have thrown...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 12, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
When you look at yourself and your own behavior, you just can’t understand how you got here. You’re a good person. You have a good heart. You wouldn’t want to hurt anybody. Yet…. You’ve found yourself stooping way lower than you could...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 8, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
Someone named Mr. Edwards asked me if his wife was “ready” for marital therapy because he didn’t think she was. The question puzzled me. Why does anyone have to be ready? You just do it. Like the time, when I was about 8 years old in summer camp and...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Dec 29, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
Did you ever hear the story of the two frogs? One was thrown into a pot of boiling water and he jumped out very quickly – and was saved. The other frog was put in an empty pot. Shortly, some nice, cool, refreshing water was being filled up in the pot and the...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Dec 25, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
Imagine the scene inside a therapy office: Therapist: So who wants to start off? Let me know why you’re here, okay? Sheila: We’re here because George has been pulling away from me for a long time. Therapist: How long? Sheila: At least five years....
