Marriage and Relationships

How Do You Come To Love Yourself?

by Deb Hirschhorn | Jan 18, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships

CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) believes it has an answer to the problem so many of us are plagued with of what they call “limiting beliefs.” Those are things we truly believe about ourselves, like: I’m no good. I’m a bad parent. I should...

How To Get Unstuck From The Same Old Cycle

by Deb Hirschhorn | Jan 11, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships

Sam walked in the door, thinking about Rob. “Really,” he thought, “Rob has a lot of nerve. Who does he think he is, anyway? First he tells me not to negotiate with Merryweather and then he goes behind my back and does exactly that?” Sam had a...

Where Are Your Inner Children?

by Deb Hirschhorn | Jan 9, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships

Wait! Don’t leave! I can see rolled eyeballs. But the people rolling them are the ones who need this most. Why do I say that? Because those are the people (usually the men) that our society robbed of their emotions. It’s not their fault. And it’s...

My Parts Took Over Me In My Driveway

by Deb Hirschhorn | Jan 4, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships

If you’re new to this group, that title is certainly confusing. Don’t worry! My livestream on Thursday will dig deep into what parts are, what Self energy is, and the rest of what IFS (Internal Family Systems) is about. But for now, the simple explanation...

Did You Tell Yourself Not To Dream? – What Will This Year Be Like For You?

by Deb Hirschhorn | Jan 2, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships

Someone said something recently that was all about Dreams. And all about how this new year could be for them – if they would permit it. Like most of the couples searching for answers in this group, they’d been married 20 years. And, like most of the...

Does The Challenge Ever Go Away?

by Deb Hirschhorn | Dec 28, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships

No. It doesn’t. You are stuck forever in taming the overburdened parts that pop up unexpectedly. So where’s the good news? The good news is it doesn’t bother you any-more. In fact, it turns the problem into a gem. The more Self energy you bring to...

Can Miracles Happen?

by Deb Hirschhorn | Dec 21, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships

I can hear someone out there muttering, “Boy, she’s going off topic! I thought this was a group about Loving Yourself and Loving Your Marriage.” Well, yes, kind of it is off topic. And then again, it’s not. To love yourself means to love your...

Grace Under Fire

by Deb Hirschhorn | Nov 30, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships

What would it be like to hear someone near and dear to you criticizing you . . . . . . and not be bothered by it? Maybe be concerned for them? Like, what’s bothering them that they have to do this? And feel your heart open to them with compassion? What would...

Top 10 Qualities of a Great Therapist – Part 3

by Deb Hirschhorn | Nov 28, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships

This is the third in a series. This all started with a live that I did a few weeks ago that was kinda rushed so I decided to elaborate a bit more in posts. 8. Has Tools But Doesn’t Impose Them Why not? If the therapist thinks they’re good for you,...