by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 22, 2003 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
So you are thinking that what I am calling verbal abuse is really no big deal? Let’s see. Here are some questions you might ask: What’s wrong with verbal abuse, specifically, name calling? Why can’t people just take a joke anyway? And here’s...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 22, 2003 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
Have you ever thought about who in your family is in charge and how they got that way? When that person speaks, others listen. You might say that this item is political. Who has the power? Who gets to decide what happens? Who decides what is said, to whom, and when?...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 13, 2002 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
Don’t rush to get hurt feelings–Stay away from playing the victim in your relationship. Ask yourself one, two, three, four, even five times: Did she really mean to hurt me? Because if your spouse, lover, friend did not really mean it, you can choose not to...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Sep 26, 2001 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
REPRINTED FROM The Jewish Star Times, p. 16 [edited] What do alcohol and drug abuse, bulimia [gorging on food and then vomiting], and anger have in common? They all discharge tension, bringing short-term relief and long-term agony. They’re all addictions. And...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Apr 1, 2001 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
REPRINTED FROM NATURAL AWAKENINGS MAGAZINE, pp. 30-31 Abuse doesn’t have to be obvious. It isn’t that simple. There are some kinds of abuse that call for a really careful look to detect. But they hurt nevertheless. Example: Never praising. People Cannot...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Mar 1, 2001 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
REPRINTED WITH PERMISSION from Natural Awakenings, March, 2001, pp. 32-33 “Sticks and stones” are not all that hurts. Knowing what put-downs really are, the damage they do to the soul, how they escalate and how to respond to them will erase the notion that...
