by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Dec 4, 2003 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
Perpetrators don’t always want to be. I cannot begin to tell you how many parents, for example, say, “I would never want to hurt my child.” Then they do it anyway. It takes FOUR steps to recover from being a perpetrator: Part I: Admitting you have...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Sep 22, 2003 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
I use hypnosis daily in helping people heal from past pain. Here are the three components and why they each work: Relaxation The biggest selling prescription drug for the last few years has been Prilosec, created to relieve stomach distress. Why would that be the...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Sep 8, 2003 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
Scene: A woman walks into a hospital emergency room, bloody and bruised. Her husband, teeth clenched, assists her. X-rays reveal several broken bones as well. As the staff tries to determine what happened, the husband bursts into tears, admitting he beat up his wife....
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Aug 16, 2003 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
Nothing drills down another person’s happiness like constant blame. “The sun rose so it’s your fault. There was an earthquake on the other side of the world, so, again, it’s your fault. Everything is your fault. In fact, I don’t know why...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Aug 4, 2003 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
My daughter and her husband were diligently working on changing their newborn boy’s diaper. Suddenly, without warning–there never is warning–he took aim and in seconds, they both got squirted. “We just cracked up,” she told me. They...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jun 8, 2003 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
“My wife is emotionally hypersensitive. She is hurt by things that wouldn’t bother me at all if someone said them to me.” This is an excellent question. The answer is buried in the old pain of your own childhood. What happened to you went like this:...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jun 5, 2003 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
If I had a dollar for every time a frightened woman said, “It’s when he gets a certain look in his eye that I become really frightened,” well, then, I’d be rich. The unconscious mind picks up body language even when we are not consciously aware...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Mar 1, 2003 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
What’s the most ancient form of communication, still existing in full force in the animal world? You got it–body language. Oh, those rolling eyeballs that speak volumes! The nasty piece about body language is that people “read” it unconsciously...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 28, 2003 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
People can be verbally, emotionally, sexually, or physically abused; there’s also exposure to substance abuse, borderline disorder, post traumatic stress, and there’s more too. An abused person could become both a victim (say of a spouse or boss at work)...
