Don’t Play Victim in Your Marriage
Don't rush to get hurt feelings--Stay away from playing the victim in your relationship. Ask yourself one, two, three, four, even five times: Did she really mean to hurt me? Because if your spouse, lover, friend did not really mean it, you can choose not to have hurt...
You’ve Seen the Lawyer? Now See the Marriage Counselor
REPRINTED WITH PERMISSION from The Jewish Star Times, p.13 If you really want a good divorce, see a marriage counselor first. There was a case in Broward County, FL some years ago that had the dubious honor of being the longest running case in county history. I knew...
Denial: Do You Do That?
REPRINTED WITH PERMISSION from Natural Awakenings, p. 25 Human consciousness is a marvelous thing. It is more flexible than a yogi. For example: You are in a lecture that is definitely not going anywhere. You could be bored out of your mind, but lo and behold, your...
Holistic Psychotherapy: A Different Way of Viewing Problems
REPRINTED BY PERMISSION from Natural Awakenings, pp. 14, 15, 19 She walked into my office, a picture of personal torment. Hounded by memories of unspeakable things, involved in one bad relationship after another, and hating herself more by the minute, she could easily...
Spiritual Treatment of ADHD
REPRINTED WITH PERMISSION from The Jewish Star Times, p. 19 I first encountered Attention Deficit Disorder when my third child was born. That was 17 years ago and it went undiagnosed. He exhibited signs which, in retrospect, were classic indicators. At age two, a...
Your Brain, Your Attitude, and Psychotropic Drugs
REPRINTED WITH PERMISSION from South Florida Health, v. 2 (1), pp. 19, 24 I used to be like any other therapist on the subject of psychotropic medication. My rude awakening came one sunny Sunday as my son, then 14, was preparing to visit a friend. "Don't forget your...
Anything Good From September 11th?
REPRINTED WITH PERMISSIONĀ from Natural Awakenings, January, 2002, p. 24 I have met some people who go through their everyday lives feeling somewhat distant from their own emotions, just going through the motions of living. I've met others who wonder what it is all...
ADHD: Keys Under the Hood, Eyeglasses in the Freezer
REPRINTED WITH PERMISSION from The Jewish Star Times, p. 19 I swear it really happened this way. Not a day goes by that my husband doesn't "lose" his glasses, his keys, his wallet, and often his shoes. (How you even manage to lose shoes, I don't know.) He's got ADHD...
Techniques for Fighting Anger Addiction
REPRINTED FROM The Jewish Star Times, p. 16 [edited] What do alcohol and drug abuse, bulimia [gorging on food and then vomiting], and anger have in common? They all discharge tension, bringing short-term relief and long-term agony. They're all addictions. And they are...
Two Examples Of Emotional Abuse
REPRINTED FROM NATURAL AWAKENINGS MAGAZINE, pp. 30-31 Abuse doesn't have to be obvious. It isn't that simple. There are some kinds of abuse that call for a really careful look to detect. But they hurt nevertheless. Example: Never praising. People Cannot Tolerate More...