Those Kids Must Be Doing SOMETHING Right
The saddest family walked into my room not long ago. The tension in the air was so great, I could hardly breathe. The parents smiled and were quite pleasant as they addressed me and their children, so what was I picking up? The daughter, a teen, had a glum expression...
8 Tips for a Great Marriage
Do you see the glass (of your marriage) as half empty or half full? The most fascinating part of this question is that both would be correct and both represent the same set of facts. No matter what you see, you can call it half empty or half full and both would be...
“You’re hypersensitive!”
"My wife is emotionally hypersensitive. She is hurt by things that wouldn't bother me at all if someone said them to me." This is an excellent question. The answer is buried in the old pain of your own childhood. What happened to you went like this: You got hurt a lot...
Yelling Does NOT Get What You Want
If I had a dollar for every time a frightened woman said, "It's when he gets a certain look in his eye that I become really frightened," well, then, I'd be rich. The unconscious mind picks up body language even when we are not consciously aware that it may be...
Three Facts About Abusive Body Language That You Probably Didn’t Know
What's the most ancient form of communication, still existing in full force in the animal world? You got it--body language. Oh, those rolling eyeballs that speak volumes! The nasty piece about body language is that people "read" it unconsciously and only register it...
Attraction: What If Two Victims of Abuse Marry Each Other?
People can be verbally, emotionally, sexually, or physically abused; there's also exposure to substance abuse, borderline disorder, post traumatic stress, and there's more too. An abused person could become both a victim (say of a spouse or boss at work) and an abuser...
What Is The Job of A Soulmate?
If you have wandered around this website, you will notice that there are links to a bunch of other websites all of which represent possible results of having been verbally, emotionally, sexually, or physically abused: substance abuse, borderline disorder, post...
I Call it Verbal Abuse; You Call it No Big Deal
So you are thinking that what I am calling verbal abuse is really no big deal? Let's see. Here are some questions you might ask: What's wrong with verbal abuse, specifically, name calling? Why can't people just take a joke anyway? And here's another question, Dr....
Emotional Abuse & Power in Relationships
Have you ever thought about who in your family is in charge and how they got that way? When that person speaks, others listen. You might say that this item is political. Who has the power? Who gets to decide what happens? Who decides what is said, to whom, and when?...
Real Passion Comes From Spiritual Connection
The main idea in marriage counseling is not about "communication," although that could be part of it. The main idea is not about behaving right (like helping in the house), although that's certainly a part of it. The main idea is not about thoughts and not fixed by...