12 Steps: Step 2 – How to Get God to Help You Recover
Step 2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. Well, if you look through this site, you'll know that I believe in God, so if you don't agree with that outlook, you'll have to figure out how to work out this one without that...
Getting The Whole Picture In Custody Evaluations
There are two ways to make custody evaluations holistic 1. The "whole" picture means the past, present, and future are equally important. During custody disputes, there is a recognition that everyone is under stress and therefore not going to look their best. Some of...
7 Things You Can Do To Heal From Abuse
1. Accept The Fact That Everything You Did Made Sense I was once speaking to a brilliant and accomplished woman who had recovered from alcohol abuse. She had been severely emotionally and verbally abused most of her life. Abuse hurts. Sometimes there is only one way...
4 Steps to Stop Being a Perpetrator
Perpetrators don't always want to be. I cannot begin to tell you how many parents, for example, say, "I would never want to hurt my child." Then they do it anyway. It takes FOUR steps to recover from being a perpetrator: Part I: Admitting you have done wrong Part II:...
12 Steps: Step 5 – Connecting
Step 5 - Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs How many times have you heard some certain 7-year old say, "sorry" like this: "Sorrrrreeee." He's kind of fed up with saying it. But someone told him he had to apologize....
Hypnosis for Abuse Recovery
I use hypnosis daily in helping people heal from past pain. Here are the three components and why they each work: Relaxation The biggest selling prescription drug for the last few years has been Prilosec, created to relieve stomach distress. Why would that be the...
Will the Real Victim Please Stand Up
Scene: A woman walks into a hospital emergency room, bloody and bruised. Her husband, teeth clenched, assists her. X-rays reveal several broken bones as well. As the staff tries to determine what happened, the husband bursts into tears, admitting he beat up his wife....
Blaming Boomerangs in Relationships
Nothing drills down another person's happiness like constant blame. "The sun rose so it's your fault. There was an earthquake on the other side of the world, so, again, it's your fault. Everything is your fault. In fact, I don't know why I married someone with so many...
Fear of Discipline Backfires!
Do you have a wild child? Then this article may be for you. Do you just blow up when you can't take it any more? Then this article is definitely for you. Abuse victims, when they become parents, are handicapped in two ways. One, they have no clue how to give good...
Laughter: A Requirement for Abuse Recovery
My daughter and her husband were diligently working on changing their newborn boy's diaper. Suddenly, without warning--there never is warning--he took aim and in seconds, they both got squirted. "We just cracked up," she told me. They thought it was funny. But they...