12 Steps: Step 6 – Remove the Obstacles
Step 6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. Well, I'm going to be iconoclastic. I don't think that the things we do that hurt others are necessarily defects of character. So, I might be parting ways with the terminology here--but not...
More Porn Less Love: What’s Wrong with Sex These Days?
What do porn and substance abuse have in common?: They are both mind-numbing escapes from emotional pain. They both do that very well, engaging the attention of the victims caught in their grip so completely that they can actually fool themselves into believing they...
8 More Ways To Heal From Abuse
Many people don't even realize that they were (or are being) abused. But the assumption that the pain will go away is not correct. What is needed is to take active steps towards recovery. This includes a bunch of wonderful tools. 1. The First Tool Is To Discover...
6 Ways To Understand Abusers & 10 Ways to Reconciliate
Consider these important elements in working out your relationship problems: 1. Every abuser has been a victim Research proves again and again that people who were victimized as children are likely to grow up to be either abusers or drawn towards abusive relationships...
Substance Abuse & Family Abuse–They’re Connected
Substance abuse and addictions do not occur in a vacuum. It is not merely the result of vulnerable kids becoming involved with the wrong crowd. If only it were that simple. In fact, substance abuse is more a symptom of the real problem than "the" problem. The real...
ADD? You Must Consider These 6 Things
ADD is a difference in "wiring" of the brain from those of non-ADD people which is frequently distinguished by lack of ability to set a pattern which can be followed in the future (such as deciding where to always place keys so you don't lose them and then repeating...
Holistic Psychotherapy: More Than Behavior, More Than Feelings
A brief history: Psychotherapy in this century started with Freud. He developed a whole way of figuring out what people were thinking and feeling as a way to reach their unconscious. Practitioners who work this way are called psychoanalysts. This is pretty clever but...
12 Steps: Step 3 – Choices
Step 3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. If you thought this one would be simple and obvious, you have another guess coming. This step is about nothing less than the meaning of life: Why are we here? What is...
12 Steps: Step 2 – How to Get God to Help You Recover
Step 2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. Well, if you look through this site, you'll know that I believe in God, so if you don't agree with that outlook, you'll have to figure out how to work out this one without that...
Getting The Whole Picture In Custody Evaluations
There are two ways to make custody evaluations holistic 1. The "whole" picture means the past, present, and future are equally important. During custody disputes, there is a recognition that everyone is under stress and therefore not going to look their best. Some of...