Jackie was silent for some time. The therapist had been gently looking to find out how she felt about herself. But the words choked in the back of Jackie’s throat. All she felt was hot, burning shame. Would she ever feel human again? The short answer is “Yes.” Find...

Understanding the person who doesn't meet our needs is the most important part of self care! That is how to get those very needs met. In this video, we dig deeper into why Larry is not making progress and why that is okay - for now....

One way to feel is, “My God, if the governments of this world can’t figure it out, how are we individuals supposed to?” But I’m proposing the opposite: “Because the governments are made up of us, the people, then the solutions have to start with us.” And what has this...

“Well, what do you want, Monica?” the therapist patiently asked his new client. Monica was baffled. She didn’t even know. Years of being beaten down, first by a parent who always knew better than anybody else, and then by a husband who shared some of those...

The 4th "situation" of the playlist "Marriage Situations" was just put up. In it, Larry has ruined an important business relationship. When he’s calm, he can see what went wrong. But why didn’t he see it at the time? Why did he have to explode? After all, that is the...

Can You Fix Your Marriage Without Counseling? Why is it some people benefit from books and videos – like this one – and make amazing changes? And others don’t? The ones who don’t still do listen, like, and want very badly to learn and change. But something stops them....

Cheryl is Larry's wife. She's been asking him to go to therapy but he has ignored her. She enters therapy herself to find out why she tolerates so much pain. She discovers she's afraid of abandonment. What is she supposed to do now? She can't change the past - or can...

In the last years that my husband was alive, he’d gotten paranoid. (Later, I put the pieces together and realized that he’d had Frontal-Temporal dementia.) We would have long talks about this family member he was angry at and I was sooooo frustrated that he did not...

Grrr. Oh, that is so annoying. They say they’re fine when they’re clearly not. They need the therapy: They don’t get my feelings. They don’t get anyone’s feelings. They trample feelings! And they say they’re fine? Oh, actually, they do have feelings – for themselves....