What To Do With Your Child’s Anger
I was rereading a therapy magazine from 1999 -- so the problems were full-blown even back then-- and it related the following: In a difference of opinion between a child and her mother who wanted the TV shut off, as the mother's demand became stronger, the child...
How To Block People Who Argue — And Get What You Want
Why is it that people insist on trying to win arguments by shooting themselves in the foot? Adam: "I did NOT say that I would go to your mother's for dinner." Sally: "Yes you did. And I don't appreciate your letting me down." "And you never let ME down?" Do you see...
Tone Of Voice2: How To Ask Questions
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News: Adolescent Depression, Insomnia, Benefits of Anxiety, and more…
Here's a roundup of news in the areas of mental health and marriage that struck me this month. 1. Adolescent Mental Health When Father Leaves Researchers following kids who were about 12 when their fathers left the family found that these children, five years later...
What’s Wrong With Anger Management?
Let's say you were an alcoholic. Would it be better to be what the people in AA programs often call a "dry drunk," i.e., someone who isn't drinking but is white-knuckling it the whole time, or, on the other hand, someone who actually doesn't even think about...
Tone of Voice: “But I Even Said, ‘Please'” – Why That May Not Be Enough
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The Surprising Role of Body Language in Assertiveness
How does it get this good?.... "My wife and I are together, and expect to be forever. We’ve learned to deal with one another and learned to identify and control our bad habits. I’ve learned why I was an abusive man and how to not be an abuser. "Sometimes I see my old...
Book Review: Why Does Married Sex Go Wrong?
You and I both know that when someone is yelling at, criticizing, belittling, or ignoring a spouse, sex gets lost in the shuffle. No matter how much Person 1 apologizes, Person 2 is still hurt. After all, a smack is a smack, whether it's physical or verbal: You feel...
How to Counteract Mental Abuse: A Case Study
Here is the story of Laurie and Nate. [NOTE: I'm sure you realize that I do not use real people's stories here. I know you've seen on TV and online all sorts of horrible "true life" stories, some even by therapists. This is unethical. It's taking advantage of people...
Men’s Key Ingredient to a Happy, Healthy, Loving Marriage
You did know there were problems. For sure, there were problems. But you honestly did not know they were THIS bad. Your wife left. Or threatened to leave. Or saw an attorney. Or served you with divorce papers. Or had an affair. Or you find...