Why would someone say that? Why would they be so dead set against seeing that the person they were married to could change? Here's my theory: Research says that we make decisions and THEN we come up with reasons for them! That's called rationalization. That means we...

The story of Impatience-In-Therapy. Like, he or she is hurting you by bringing up a sore topic. Or by not paying attention to you, not putting you first. Or by flirting too much. Or by spending too much. Whatever it is, you've told them and told them and told them....

Today I wanted you to understand what I stand for. It's more than "saving a marriage." I want you to be happy. I believe that everyone should be happy. Now, right away, you can jump on this and say, "Wait a minute, what about people in misery, in poverty, people who...

Of course. Who wants to keep doing what you've been doing, whatever it is - coldness or the other extreme, fighting? Who wants to keep reminding someone of what you want and need and not get heard? I get that. Sick of getting up in the morning and looking at a face...

I do get their feelings. Right now they are sick and tired of something that you're doing or have done. Maybe they're sick of the same annoying irritating tone of voice that you give every time you bring up something that's important to them. I get that. Maybe they're...

What GETTING THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT Stands For Well you may as well know: I'm old fashioned. I believe in marriage. That does NOT mean I believe in suffering! Obviously, I wouldn't EVER tell a couple, "Just get used to it" or "You're supposed to suffer in this world."...

Hey, DrDeb, that's a great question. What would YOU do for me that others can't? Or don't? Here is what you want and what I will deliver: * You want to know what is the problem anyway? Why do we keep going round and round and getting nowhere?* Everyone has gifts. I...