What I Stand For: I Want You To Be Happy
Today I wanted you to understand what I stand for. It's more than "saving a marriage." I want you to be happy. I believe that everyone should be happy. Now, right away, you can jump on this and say, "Wait a minute, what about people in misery, in poverty, people who...
OKAY I ADMIT PEOPLE DO CHANGE BUT IT TAKES TIME AND I’M TIRED OF SPENDING MINE WAITING
Of course. Who wants to keep doing what you've been doing, whatever it is - coldness or the other extreme, fighting? Who wants to keep reminding someone of what you want and need and not get heard? I get that. Sick of getting up in the morning and looking at a face...
YOUR SPOUSE WANTS OUT OF THE MARRIAGE FOR THE WRONG REASONS
I do get their feelings. Right now they are sick and tired of something that you're doing or have done. Maybe they're sick of the same annoying irritating tone of voice that you give every time you bring up something that's important to them. I get that. Maybe they're...
What GETTING THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT Stands For
What GETTING THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT Stands For Well you may as well know: I'm old fashioned. I believe in marriage. That does NOT mean I believe in suffering! Obviously, I wouldn't EVER tell a couple, "Just get used to it" or "You're supposed to suffer in this world."...
Why Work With DrDeb To Get The Marriage You Want?
Hey, DrDeb, that's a great question. What would YOU do for me that others can't? Or don't? Here is what you want and what I will deliver: * You want to know what is the problem anyway? Why do we keep going round and round and getting nowhere?* Everyone has gifts. I...
MYTH: People Don’t Change!
MYTH: People Don't Change!! Yes they do. You know it; you've done it. You're not the same person you were before your marriage, right? You're a little wiser. Maybe you're also a little more hurt? Or a lot more? But you know you've changed. So what is it with your...
Emotional Abuse Reference List
BOOKS AND ARTICLES ON PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL, AND VERBAL ABUSE Oldies But Goodies: Dissertation References Abroms, G. (1978). The place of values in psychotherapy. Journal of Marriage and Family Counseling, 4(4), 3-17. Adams, D. (1988). Treatment models of men who...
Marriage Is A Growth Experience
This is the third installment about a young couple, Jordan and Mimi, whose marriage was about to be derailed. Last week, we got to know Mimi a little better and this week is Jordan's turn. Jordan is a smart, reserved boy who loves his work. He is one of a large...
How To Fix Low Self-Esteem In Your Marriage
Last week, we met Mimi and Jordan, a lovely young couple whose dating relationship was marked by Mimi being attracted to Jordan precisely because he did not fawn over her. Mimi, although very pretty, smart, and nice, had low self-esteem. She kept that well-hidden with...
The Most Important Thing You Must Do When Dating
Mimi was all excited. She was getting ready for a first date with Jordan. She was looking forward to the date because she had heard such glowing reports about him from all his references: He was smart, likable, and a great earner. Jordan was punctual, a good quality....