The prevailing wisdom is that if someone is a narcissist, they cannot change so you have to leave them. And you have total proof because YOUR narcissist did not change. You ranted. You raved. You ignored. You threatened. You're sorry to say you even had an affair. And...

How many therapists, mentors, and coaches talk about Respect? Well, they ought to. Respect is key to any relationship. Just think about this: You want more respect from your spouse in your relationship, right? So, does it make sense for a mentor to not respect YOU?...

Imagine walking into a store not exactly sure what you're looking for. In fact, you've gone to store after store, looking for "it" but not sure what "it" looks like and not even sure if you'd recognize it when you see it. But this thing that's missing from your life...

You don't know what to do. It's happened again. You've gotten yelled at. Made fun of. Put down. Name-called. Gotten eyeballs rolled. Threatened. Even a little of that gets under the skin. It's corrosive. Toxic. It hurts. And everyone that cares about you - who knows...

When your spouse finally learns that you've caught him or her cheating - in one way or another - what's the usual reaction? They get defensive. They cover it up. They minimize it. And they're not the ones reading this post. You are. The one that got cheated on. And...

If I were going to play Devil's Advocate, the first question should be: Why is it useful to have a positive mindset anyway? If I'm feeling rotten, why hide it? Shouldn't I be honest? If someone wronged me, why gloss over it? Shouldn't I be entitled to lick my wounds?...

WHY DRDEB? - My slant First, HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!! May this be the Thanksgiving that begins your journey of a whole and wholesome, happy family. I would like to share with you a compliment I just got today. I never know what people are thinking until you tell me, and...

WE TRIED COUNSELING. IT DIDN'T WORK. NOTHING WORKS. There's that feeling that life passes you by, right? That feeling that things are good for everyone else, but not me. Listen, we are all prey to that down feeling sometimes. It's normal. As long as you don't stay...

I LIKE TO SOLVE PROBLEMS. DO YOU? There are two kinds of people in this world. We can call one kind pessimists. They also can be called depressed. Because the definition of depression is loss of hope, lose of belief, loss of a dream. Well, that's also pessimism. Maybe...

There's lots of reasons why a couple could be unhappy. Do you notice that the same stuff repeats itself over and over? There's a reason for that. It's not because people are "insane" - meaning they keep doing the same thing expecting a different result. Not at all....