I Tried Everything But My Partner Can’t/Won’t Change
Why isn't it working? You know you can change; you've done it. You're not the same person you were before your marriage, right? You're a little wiser. Maybe you're also a little more hurt? Or a lot more? But you know you've changed. So what is it with your spouse? Why...
Should We Have High Standards For Our Own Happiness?
Did you ever hear the story of the two frogs? One was thrown into a pot of boiling water and he jumped out very quickly - and was saved.The other frog was put in an empty pot. Shortly, some nice, cool, refreshing water was being filled up in the pot and the frog was...
One Small But Fundamental Part Of Repairing A Marriage
Imagine the scene inside a therapy office:Therapist: So who wants to start off? Let me know why you're here, okay? Sheila: We're here because George has been pulling away from me for a long time.Therapist: How long?Sheila: At least five years. It's been a nightmare...
How Would You Like To Be In Love For Life?
According to researchers - who've spent their entire careers studying romantic love and passion - it is possible! The researchers studied the brains of couples who were married at least 10 years. They completed all kinds of self-report tests, looked at pictures of...
MYTH: Self-Reflection has To Be Painful
Here are 4 categories of people running away from themselves: People addicted to one thing or another - alcohol, drugs, gambling, porn, shopping, working exceptionally long hours, explosive anger/rages, lying, or cheating. Schizophrenics, Narcissists. Those who are...
How Compassion Saves You A Lot Of Pain
He was beside himself. At four in the morning, Steve got a call from the police. His wife was out cold behind the steering wheel of her car which was that close to being completely wrapped around a tree. He could feel his breath come in short spurts. He was expecting...
How To Fix Deep Problems Without Fights & Finger-Pointing
Did you know that right now, it’s possible for you to completely turn around a bad marriage? I’ll explain how in just a second. But first, let’s talk about why so many people think this is impossible. The truth is that you’ve been let down. Let down by so many experts...
You Can Fall In Love With Your Spouse Again
Have you ever been told that if you want real love and you're in a dead marriage, the best thing to do is divorce? That there is no way under the sun that two people who no longer love each other can ever be happy again, let alone fall in love - with each other -...
Are Abusers Evil?
No. They're not. They are regular people who did not learn. Are yu going to argue with me? Do you think they certainly were told but they didn't want to listen? I will prove to you that that is not accurate. Come with me.... We're going to take a peek into little...
The Value Of Truth
Suppose a client walks into a therapist's office every week for a month and each time, he has a spot on his shirt. He is down and out, looking for a job and can't get one. Should the therapist: a. tell him flat out that he has spots on his clothes? b. ignore the spots...