The prevailing wisdom is that if someone is a narcissist, they cannot change so you have to leave them. And you have total proof because YOUR narcissist did not change. You ranted. You raved. You ignored. You threatened. You're sorry to say you even had an affair. And...

When your spouse finally learns that you've caught him or her cheating - in one way or another - what's the usual reaction? They get defensive. They cover it up. They minimize it. And they're not the ones reading this post. You are. The one that got cheated on. And...

I've heard the story too many times of people who go to therapy to fix a problem and they walk out with a bigger one. The therapist wants to hear what's going on so the couple obliges by starting a fight! Right there in front of the therapist. The therapist feels...

Peter was miserable and didn't know why. He decided it was his wife's, Elizabeth's, fault. After all, she was his wife; she was supposed to love him, and since he was miserable, she must have let him down in some way. He didn't know what way, exactly. But it must have...

You don't know what to do. It's happened again. You've gotten yelled at. Made fun of. Put down. Name-called. Gotten eyeballs rolled. Threatened. Even a little of that gets under the skin. It's corrosive. Toxic. It hurts. And everyone that cares about you - who knows...

I once was interning to acquire the number of hours necessary for my license. I met with a particular family. They were really lovely people. Okay, they would fight. Okay, they didn't seem to know how to get out of the spiral they were in. I get that. Not everyone...

I would like to share with you a compliment I got. I never know what people are thinking until you tell me, and I was very touched by this compliment. I asked this individual why they reached out to me and they said something like, "You have a way forward no matter...

"WE TRIED COUNSELING. IT DIDN'T WORK. NOTHING WORKS." There's that feeling that life passes you by, right? That feeling that things are good for everyone else, but not me. Listen, we are all prey to that down feeling sometimes. It's normal. As long as you don't stay...

This is the story of screams falling on deaf ears. For example, you've told them NOT to bring up a particular, sore topic, but they do it anyway. Or they're not paying attention to you, not putting you first. Or they're flirting too much. Or they're spending too much....

The FB Live was done on my DrDeb-Marriage Counseling Page today at noon. Grab it as a video - it's still good!! This is not a permanent time change!