Have you ever been told that if you want real love and you're in a dead marriage, the best thing to do is divorce? That there is no way under the sun that two people who no longer love each other can ever be happy again, let alone fall in love - with each other -...

I Look Abusers In The Eye I tell them what's what. With love. Because they're not inherently evil. We're going to take a peek into little Randy's house. Randy is four years old. His three-year-old sister just got a gift from a doting aunt. It was a sweet-faced doll....

Suppose a client walks into a therapist's office every week for a month and each time, he has a spot on his shirt. He is down and out, looking for a job and can't get one. Should the therapist: a. tell him flat out that he has spots on his clothes? b. ignore the spots...

Coaching isn't about feelings. That's what I used to think. That is, until I put together my own coaching program. Which clearly focuses on feelings. How could it not? Feelings run the world! Politics is all about feelings. Love and marriage - of course - is certainly...

Sex is the Gold Standard of a well-oiled, functioning, happy, content marriage. Or it should be. And so, for that reason, everyone wants it. Of course. It feels wonderful when it feels wonderful. But when it doesn't..... It's two strangers trying to connect and not...

It's unethical to give out bandaids. Here are examples of bandaids: • books • articles • listening forever and saying, "Awww" to complaints and problems How many of these have actually created changes in the reader, listener, or participant? Changes that last? The...

I'm not going to mince words. The answer is that if you THINK you love someone else more than yourself, it's not love in the first place. You didn't love them that much and you surely didn't love yourself that much either. Why? Why do I say that? Well, let's examine...

I myself used to subscribe to this myth. After all, I was a marriage counselor. How do you do marriage counseling with only one person?? That was until, we'll call him Joey, came to see me, insisting that his wife wanted no part of therapy. We worked slowly together...

There was this guy who would not look at me. He sat in our session with his arms crossed, looking elsewhere. He admitted he was "irritated." His wife was sitting there in tears, and through her tears, she said, "This is what it's like for me! Now you know!" And the...

Did you know that right now, it’s possible for you to fall in love -- with each other -- again? I’ll explain how in just a second. But first, let’s talk about why so many people think this is impossible. The truth is that you’ve been LET DOWN. Let down by so many...