I absolutely hate being negative because I believe in people - even therapists. But I keep hearing how people argue in the therapy room and go out no better than they came in. Why doesn't it work? Well, if you've been in therapy, check and see if this is what it was...

Not always, but mostly, the burden of change in the marriage falls on the man. Why is that? Statistically, 70% of divorces are initiated by women. That's a phenomenal number. Why is that? It seems that the old saying is true, "happy wife, happy life." Do men have...

Eva walks in the door and Tom, her husband, barely looks at her, barely speaks to her. Tom is stealing Eva's happiness. Why? Why would he do that? He'll tell you that he's not happy. He'll tell you that Eva is the problem, the reason. He'll tell you that he can't...

The answer is zero. Why do I say that? Because the unwritten rule in therapy is that you don't have to accomplish anything. There is no guarantee that you'll get "there." In fact, neither one of you knows where "there" is. I know. I did that for years. True...

You know the story of the guy who was abusive, had a temper, was controlling and demanding, got divorced because of all that and managed to keep it together long enough for a new girl to fall in love with him; and of course she never saw a hint of all the rotten...

When you look at yourself and your own behavior, you just can't understand how you got here. You're a good person. You have a good heart. You wouldn't want to hurt anybody. Yet…. You've found yourself stooping way lower than you could have imagined, saying things that...

I was on the phone with a woman who was desperate to fix her marriage and my heart broke for her. But I knew I would not be helping her. She started off telling me the names her husband called her and then I was thinking, "I work with verbal abusers; no problem." She...

Polls show that "poor communication" is the key to marriages falling apart. Here are some reasons for poor communication: Victim thinking Victim thinking means that someone is interpreting every communication in which another person expresses a desire for something as...

Hey Spouse, It hurts for your partner to no longer believe in you. It steals your possibilities away, right? Basically, it says that you are a robot that cannot escape your programming. As if you didn't have free choice. So why did they convince themselves in the...

This guy was pretty unhappy. He said he didn't want to think about the possibility that his wife would end the marriage. He spoke with great pain about that fight they had in which the horrible "D" word was uttered. As we were going through the call and I was trying...