I've heard the story too many times of people who go to therapy to fix a problem and they walk out with a bigger one. The therapist wants to hear what's going on so the couple obliges by starting a fight! Right there in front of the therapist. The therapist feels...

Peter was miserable and didn't know why. He decided it was his wife's, Elizabeth's, fault. After all, she was his wife; she was supposed to love him, and since he was miserable, she must have let him down in some way. He didn't know what way, exactly. But it must have...

The prevailing wisdom is that if someone is a narcissist, they cannot change so you have to leave them. And you have total proof because YOUR narcissist did not change. You ranted. You raved. You ignored. You threatened. You're sorry to say you even had an affair. And...

Mary screamed. She did not like herself screaming. She hated it. But she couldn't help it. She screamed at Tim. It was nasty. Tim retreated to his phone. In fact, he walked out the door and retreated to his phone. But the reality is that Tim did not do any of the...

Hey, I'll Bet You Love Being Examined Under A Microscope I once was interning to acquire the number of hours necessary for my license. I met with a particular family. They were really lovely people. Okay, they would fight. Okay, they didn't seem to know how to get out...

I would like to share with you a compliment I got recently. I never know what people are thinking until you tell me, and I was very touched by this compliment. I asked this individual why they reached out to me and they said something like, "You have a way forward no...

Should I Listen To The Advice Everyone's Giving Me To Leave My Abusive Spouse? You don't know what to do. It's happened again. You've gotten yelled at. Made fun of. Put down. Name-called. Gotten eyeballs rolled. Threatened. Even a little of that gets under the skin....

You are sick and tired of this. Sick of him not being home. Sick of his lies. Sick of the distance, the disconnection. Sick of putting up with feeling second class, unimportant. You cannot tolerate it. And why should you? You're a good person. No reason whatever for...

Isn't it nice to go to someone who really listens? I mean after trying and trying to get through to your spouse - for years - to finally have the therapist sit there calmly and patiently listening, isn't that wonderful? And then they get it. They understand. OMG that...

How long is this going to go on? This is ridiculous! I've told him not once but a thousand times. I won't take it any-more! It's got to stop. It doesn't matter "what" has got to stop. It could be fighting, blaming, cheating, neglecting. It could be anything. But...