I absolutely hate being negative because I believe in people - even therapists. But I keep hearing how people argue in the therapy room and go out no better than they came in. Why doesn't it work? Well, if you've been in therapy, check and see if this is what it was...

I was on the phone with a woman who was desperate to fix her marriage and my heart broke for her. But I knew I would not be helping her. She started off telling me the names her husband called her and then I was thinking, "I work with verbal abusers; no problem." She...

Someone named Mr. Edwards asked me if his wife was "ready" for marital therapy because he didn't think she was. The question puzzled me. Why does anyone have to be ready? You just do it. Like the time, when I was about 8 years old in summer camp and I stood in diver's...

You know the story of the guy who was abusive, had a temper, was controlling and demanding, got divorced because of all that and managed to keep it together long enough for a new girl to fall in love with him; and of course she never saw a hint of all the rotten...

The Women Are Leaving - In Droves This guy was pretty unhappy. He said he didn't want to think about the possibility that his wife would end the marriage. He spoke with great pain about that fight they had in which the horrible "D" word was uttered. As we were going...

When it comes to cars, I don't care if I'm driving a Lexus, a Honda, or a Farari. I really wouldn't. Yes, I notice the bumps in the road with the regular, run-of-the-mill car, but only for the first few minutes. Then my mind goes somewhere else and I'm not paying...

Suzie was crying as she related to me all her attempts to convince her therapist that she was not ready for divorce. Lazy therapist: But he is a cheater. How will you ever trust him again? Suzie: I get it. I don't know. That's what you're for. To help me with that!...

Hey Spouse, It hurts for your partner to no longer believe in you. It steals your possibilities away, right? Basically, it says that you are a robot that cannot escape your programming. As if you didn't have free choice. So why did they convince themselves in the...

Here are 4 categories of people running away from themselves: People addicted to one thing or another - alcohol, drugs, gambling, porn, shopping, working exceptionally long hours, explosive anger/rages, lying, or cheating. Schizophrenics, Narcissists. Those who are...

Did you ever hear the story of the two frogs? One was thrown into a pot of boiling water and he jumped out very quickly - and was saved. The other frog was put in an empty pot. Shortly, some nice, cool, refreshing water was being filled up in the pot and the frog was...